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Sharing meals is an important bonding ritual, and it’s often the gateway to making important connections.

But without good table manners, you could blow your chance of building that relationship with your date, your interviewer, your client, or your fiancee’s parents.

And you could embarrass yourself at business, social, and even family gatherings.

In this article, we’ll show you the dining rules you need to know so that you can enjoy your meal without worrying you’re making a fool out of yourself.

  • What Is Dining Etiquette
  • Basic Table Manners
  • Dining Etiquette Starts Before You Get To The Table
  • You Still Need Table Manners When There’s NO Table
  • Place Setting Basics
  • Sitting Down And Leaving The Table
  • Napkin Etiquette Rules
  • How To Order And Taste Wine
  • When To Start Eating?
  • How To Eat Politely
  • Saying No To Food And Drink
  • Bonus: Who Pays For Dinner?

Before We Get Started: What Is Dining Etiquette?

  • Etiquette is how you handle yourself in society.
  • Manners are the rules of polite behavior (part of etiquette).

So table manners (following the rules) are a part of dining etiquette (how you contribute to everyone’s enjoyment of the meal). Here are the ten most important ones.

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#1. Basic Table Manners

Pay attention to your hosts. If in doubt, copy them, and don’t start eating until they do.

Don’t chew with your mouth open or talk with food in your mouth. Take small bites so you can finish them before speaking.

Bring your food to your face, not your face to your food. It’s a plate, not a trough.

“Please” and “thank you” are still the magic words. “Excuse me” will take you equally far.

Best way to make good conversation? Really listen to people. Keep it simple and fun, and avoid emotional topics: disgust, anger, fear, and sadness have no place at the table. Nor do your negative opinions about your host’s lasagna or choice of wine.

#2. Dining Etiquette Starts Before You Get To The Table

well served dining table

You’re invited to a dinner party. Fantastic! They’re a lot of fun and are quite often an opportunity to make a good impression on an influencer or two: your girlfriend’s father, the new Chairman of the Board, etc.

Surely you don’t want to sabotage your chances before your host has even finalized the menu? Here’s how to prevent that from happening.

RSVP within 3 days of receiving an invitation.

Dress on the smart side of appropriate for the occasion: it shows respect for your hosts and fellow guests, and of course it’s always a far better choice to be overdressed than underdressed. The former is also easier to remedy: you can leave your blazer and tie in the cloakroom, but you can’t drive home once you’ve arrived and realized you’re the only man there without one.

If you’re visiting someone’s home, bring a small gift, such as chocolates, a kitchen gadget, or wine. Be on time, but not more than 5 minutes early: chances are, your hosts will still be in the middle of last-minute preparations.

Before you walk in, turn your phone OFF. Don’t just put it on silent, and don’t have it in sight during the meal. This not only shows respect for your hosts and fellow guests, it also helps YOU to be fully present and enjoy the meal.

#3. You Still Need Table Manners When There’s NO Table

Picnics, buffets, and barbecues may be informal, but even at such casual occasions, there are a few dining etiquette rules to keep in mind to make sure everyone has a good time.

Care for other people’s comfort in social situations is, after all, the mark of a true gentleman, even when the occasion calls for sandals and tiki torches.

  • Take an average-sized serving. Don’t hog the food. Gluttony is not attractive, especially to the hungry people in line behind you who saw you take the last two cheeseburgers. You can always go back for seconds once everyone has eaten.
  • Don’t double-dip. If you want to dip your chip more than once, put some dip on your plate and spare everyone else your saliva.
  • Cut meat for yourself. If you’re handy with a carving knife, offer to help those nearby. But don’t cut the whole roast. Leaving cut-up meat lying around will dry it out.
  • Most importantly, clean up after yourself. This is especially important when your hostess is Mother Nature.

#4. Table Setting – The Basics

formal table setting etiquette

It looks daunting, but the rules for plates, glasses and silverware are actually quite simple. During the meal, start with the silverware on the outside and work your way inward. Knives and spoons go on the right, forks on the left.

If there’s also a small fork on the right, that’s for seafood. Silverware at the top of the plate (often a smaller spoon) is for dessert. Your butter knife should be on or near your bread plate.

Bread plates are on the left, drinking glasses on the right. If you get confused as to which is yours and which is your neighbor’s, make a “b” for bread and “d” for drink by touching the thumb and index finger of each hand (subtly… maybe under the table.)

Your water glass is the one above the knife in an informal place setting. It’s usually bigger than your wine glass.

informal table setting etiquette

The shape of a wine glass tells you not only what to put in it, but how to hold it. Red wine glasses are broader because you hold them by the bowl to keep the wine warm. You hold a white wine glass by the stem to keep it cool.

#5. Sitting Down And Leaving The Table

Find your place at a table either by looking for your name card or waiting for the host or wait staff to seat you. Don’t sit until the host does.

On social occasions, be ready to help ladies next to you with their chairs. Don’t do this on business occasions: in business, the proper way to treat a woman is as a fellow professional. 

If you need to leave the table during the meal, say “Excuse me for a second. I’ll be right back.” No further explanation is necessary.

After the meal, wait for the host to stand up before leaving the table.

#6. Napkin Etiquette Rules

Place your napkin in your lap within one minute of sitting down. Don’t tuck it into your trousers or shirt: it’s not a bib. Unfold it just enough to cover your lap.

The main purpose of a napkin is not to catch dropped food but to unobtrusively keep your mouth clean. Dab, don’t wipe: it’s very bad dining etiquette to use your napkin as a towel.

Whenever you stand, loosely fold your napkin and place it to the left of your plate.

#7. How To Order And Taste Wine

ordering wine is a part of good table manners

This is one bit of dining etiquette that causes a lot of guys’ anxiety, but again, it’s actually quite simple when you know how. First, ask your companion(s) whether they want individual glasses or a bottle, and their likes and dislikes:

  • Red or white
  • Old World (earthy) or New World (fruity)
  • Full-bodied (thick and heavy), medium-bodied, or light-bodied
  • Any particular varieties they don’t like.

Traditionally, red wine goes with heavier dishes, such as beef or pork, white wine with lighter fare like chicken or fish. However, it is perfectly all right to order whichever you prefer, regardless of what you’re eating.

Avoid the ‘house white’ or ‘house red’ (they’re usually terrible) but don’t be afraid to get the cheapest named wine on the menu. The second cheapest is usually overpriced because restaurateurs know how people’s minds work.

If you wish, ask the server or sommelier for a recommendation. Tell them what you’re looking for, point to a bottle on the menu in your price range and say ‘I’m considering a bottle like this.

This is a universal restaurant code for “This is exactly what I want to pay, but I don’t want to say it out loud.”

When presented with a bottle of wine, check the label and the cork (including the vintage) to make sure it’s what you ordered. The waiter will then pour you a small amount.

wine 1

Look, swirl, sniff, and taste. This is NOT to see if you like the wine. If you don’t, tough luck: you’ve bought it. It’s to see whether it’s corked (tainted with a fungus that grows on corks).

If your wine smells like mold or wet cardboard, it’s corked and you should tell the server. They’ll be happy to replace it.

#8. When To Start Eating?

There are two parts to this rule.

  1. Wait to eat till the host picks up their fork. It’s bad dining etiquette to be seen eating alone.
  2. The exception to part 1. Don’t let hot food get cold. If hot food is being served and people are still milling around, start eating after two other people have been served. If you’re all seated and there are more than four in the group, start when three or four other guests have been served.

On a slightly touchy note, acknowledge tradition and prayer, regardless of your own religious beliefs. You needn’t cross yourself or fold your hands, even if everyone else does, but do show respect and keep quiet.

A prayer before eating should be initiated only by the host but can be said by anyone.

You needn’t feel any guilt about politely refusing to say it if the host asks you to. A simple “Thank you, I’d rather not” will suffice. If you’re willing to, keep it short and simple, bearing in mind the very real possibility that there is more than one faith present.

#9. How To Eat Politely

Keep your elbows OFF the table when food is ON it. It’s perfectly good dining etiquette to rest your elbows on the table between courses or during coffee.

Avoid reaching into others’ personal space or standing to reach something. Ask someone to pass it.

If you spill something, apologize quickly and concisely, and do what you can to help with cleanup. Then relax and do your best to forget about it.

You can tip a bowl of soup to get the last few spoonfuls but tip it AWAY from yourself. Forgetting this rule can lead to that quite unpleasant ‘soup down your suit’ feeling.

Place your knife and fork in the 4:20 position when finished. This tells the server they can clear your plate, and makes it easy for them to pick it up without dropping the silverware.

#10. Saying No To Food And Drink

Offered something that you just don’t want? Take a small amount, and try one bite.

Allergies? Vegetarian? Kosher? Any other dietary restrictions? It is your job to let your host know your needs in advance, ideally when you RSVP. If your needs can’t be met, eat a large meal beforehand, and if it’s a meat issue, eat PROTEIN.

If you’re expecting your hosts to offer alcohol, decide how you’re going to respond.

Will you have just one drink? Two? Or none? It is your decision and it requires no explanation. But whatever you decide, be consistent. It’ll make people respect you more and accept your decision more easily.

If you don’t want to drink, but people are toasting, take one glass and just touch it to your lips. It’s also correct dining etiquette to toast using water or soft drinks, although some groups will accept this more easily than others. Just don’t raise an empty glass.

Bonus Question: Who Pays For Dinner?

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For business meals, the person who issued the invite pays. If that’s you, don’t ask for contributions. If it’s not you, don’t offer.

Social events may be paid for by the host or split among guests. Have enough cash (including some small bills for tipping) just in case.

Don’t expect a woman to chip in for dinner on the first few dates, but if she really wants to, let her. (And don’t pay behind her back when she’s asked you not to: you want her to trust you.)

What’s the best action step you can take to learn good dining etiquette? Practice it consistently at home, and not just if you have a family. Even if you live alone, practice your table manners until they become second nature. That way, they’ll always be there when you need them.

Good table manners aren’t a means of impressing people. They’re an important part of a gentleman’s main job, which is to make the world a more pleasant and comfortable place for those around him.

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As much as you won’t like hearing this, you’re probably wearing your watch wrong.

It’s not your fault; you may have never been taught how to wear a watch properly. After all, there is more than one way to wear a watch.

But how do you know which way is the right way?

Don’t worry, gents; as always, I’ve got you covered. I’m here with the best way to wear your favorite timepiece properly and look as stylish as ever.

In today’s article, I’ll be covering:

  1. Origins Of The Wrist Watch
  2. What Wrist Do You Wear A Watch On?
  3. Should You Wear Your Watch Facing Inward Or Outward?
  4. The Stylish Way To Wear A Watch

#1 Origins Of The Wrist Watch

old watches

When it comes to wearing a watch correctly, it’s important to note why the wristwatch came about in the first place.

Dating back to the 1800s, the first watches modified to be worn on the wrist were primarily worn by women as accessories. One of the earliest was created by Patek Philippe as a fashion accessory.

At the start of the 20th century, watchmakers became intrigued about using a wrist-worn timepiece for men in the military. They believed it would help them tell time quickly while on the battlefield.

Watchmakers started modifying pocket watches to fit on a bracelet worn on the wrist. Men would not wear the first iteration of the modern wristwatch until well into the 20th century.

Then developed as a ‘trench watch’ for military use, the earliest wrist watches offered something the pocket watch didn’t have – convenience.

After the wristwatch became less of a fashion accessory and more of a functional tool, watchmakers would spend the next century modifying them into the modern wristwatches we enjoy today.

#2 What Wrist Do You Wear A Watch On?

man wears watch

The age-old question: what wrist to wear a watch on? The answer – it depends.

The reason it depends is that since the creation of the wristwatch, men have mostly worn their watch on their non-dominant wrist. And since most people are right-handed, you would wear your watch on your left wrist.

But this isn’t always the correct answer. You may want to wear your watch on the right wrist if you are left-handed. But you may also want to wear it on your dominant hand.

So how do you know for sure?

The most significant benefit of wearing your watch on your non-dominant hand is that you can quickly put the watch on and navigate the dial more efficiently than with your non-dominant hand.

Wearing your watch on your non-dominant hand is less likely to damage the watch as you tend to do more with your dominant hand. If you were to wear it on your dominant hand, you’re more likely to scratch or ding the watch than on your non-dominant hand.

So the rule of thumb here is to wear your watch on your non-dominant hand for the best way to navigate and protect your watch.

#3 Should You Wear Your Watch Facing Inward Or Outward?

watch facing inside

The next question is, why would a man wear his watch facing inward on his wrist instead of outward?

This trend is seen primarily in individuals who need to check their watch frequently and in the most efficient way possible. Among the many reasons you should wear a watch, one of the most common is to support you in your profession.

You will see men in the military do this, as it’s easier and prevents sun glare better than when it’s on the outside of the wrist. It also offers faster convenience to other tools on the watch in addition to the time.

Another reason you may want to wear your watch facing inward is that it can help protect your watch from scratches and dings. Again, this is just a preference.

But you’re a stylish guy looking for the best way to wear his watch. What should you do?

The answer here is to wear it facing outward, as that is the most common way to wear a wristwatch. It shows off your timepiece that you love while also still being functional.

Unless you’re in a profession where you need to check your watch quickly while managing other tasks, the best way is to have your watch facing outward. After all, you probably didn’t spend money on that beautiful timepiece to hide its character.

#4 The Stylish Way To Wear A Watch

stylish watch

Now it’s time to find out exactly how to wear a watch in the most stylish way a guy can.

Assuming you’ve selected the right size watch for your wrist, the first thing you want to do is figure out if you’ll be wearing your watch on your right or left wrist.

As mentioned above, traditionally, the watch is worn on your non-dominant wrist. So if you’re right-handed, this means wearing your watch on your left wrist. For left-handed guys, this means your right wrist.

After you figure that out, it’s quite easy. The first thing you want to do is locate your wrist bone.

You want to wear your watch face up just above your wrist bone. If done correctly, your watch should slightly peek out from under the cuffs of your shirt when wearing long sleeves.

Next, you want to tighten the strap so it’s loose enough to be comfortable. You don’t want it so loose it can spin freely around your wrist. You also don’t want it too tight, or it will feel uncomfortable, especially when you bend your wrist.

After doing this correctly, you’ll be wearing a watch in the most stylish way possible.

There you have it, gents.

Now you no longer have to worry about wearing your watch incorrectly.

There is more than one way to wear a watch, so find what’s most comfortable for you personally, and rock your favorite timepiece accordingly.

If you want to take your watch knowledge to the next level, check out this article I wrote about the difference between quartz and mechanical watches.

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Fall Capsule Wardrobe Preparation (Buy Now and Get $$$)

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We’ve all been there – fall comes around, and you open your closet only to find you have nothing but polos and shorts.

So what’s a stylish guy to do? Pay a premium to build an entire fall wardrobe last minute? Sure, if you’re loaded. But not every guy is that lucky!

Don’t worry; as ever, I’ve got you covered. In today’s article, I’ll show you how to get the best bang for your buck when building your fall capsule wardrobe.

We’ll be covering:

  1. What Are The Advantages Of A Capsule Wardrobe?
  2. How Do You Build A Fall Capsule Wardrobe?
  3. Where Can You Find Deals On Fall Clothing?
  4. What Are The Best Fall Capsule Wardrobe Essentials?

#1 What Are The Advantages Of A Capsule Wardrobe?

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One of the most common headaches guys run into in their closet is having too many clothing options to choose from but not enough of the right options.

While more options aren’t bad, they can be overwhelming, especially when you rarely wear most items. This is where building a capsule wardrobe comes into play.

A capsule wardrobe is a limited selection of clothing items that complement each other. This means you can buy a smaller selection of items and create a larger number of outfits.

This is crucial to understand because most guys don’t have an unlimited budget for buying clothes. A capsule wardrobe allows you to purchase and use items frequently with little redundancy.

But where do you start in building your fall capsule wardrobe?

#2 How Do You Build A Fall Capsule Wardrobe?

fall clothing items

After you have put together the perfect capsule wardrobe, you can start to add a few fall-specific items. This is done by adding a few staple pieces that complement what you already have.

For most, fall offers mild temperatures mixed with slightly warmer temperatures.

This means that layering will be of the utmost importance because you may leave the house needing a jacket, but it might be warm enough by midday to sport only the t-shirt underneath.

Start with the basics when building your fall capsule wardrobe and add pieces accordingly.

Keep It Simple

man wearing coat

Fall is primetime for layering, so you only need a few outer layers and should focus more on the innermost layers.

You want to make sure that interchangeability is at the top of your list when it comes to your wardrobe. Everything should complement each other for ease of use.

With that said, having a few staples and adding additional items as you change seasons is essential.

For this reason, ensure you have the following items in your fall capsule wardrobe:

  • A dark three-piece suit 
  • A light-colored tweed blazer
  • A leather bomber or biker jacket
  • An overcoat (dark or light)
  • A formal button-up shirt (white)
  • 2 casual button-up shirts (flannel or chambray, you choose)
  • 2 sweaters (1 shawl, 1 crew neck)
  • 2 t-shirts (1 white, 1 black,)
  • 2 pairs of Jeans (1 dark, 1 light)
  • 2 pairs of slacks/chinos (1 dark, 1 light)
  • 2 belts (1 black, 1 brown)
  • 1 pair of black dress shoes
  • 1 pair of brown oxfords (leather or suede, you decide)
  • 1 pair of sneakers (plain white or brown)
  • 1 pair of military boots (black or brown)

When it comes to accessories like watches, scarves, or gloves, you can use what you have as most men won’t need all of them, so I won’t count them in.

#3 Where Can You Find Deals On Fall Clothing?

clothing on sale

As it is the middle of summer, fall will be approaching quickly.

Now is a great time to snag up some of last year’s sale items at department stores as they usually have sales on previous season items. By now, most men aren’t thinking about what to wear in the fall.

While you still might be able to find good deals on last year’s fall items, it’s usually the most optimal time to purchase these items after the season has ended. This is when retailers try hard to clear space and make room for the next season’s clothing.

When they do this, it is a great time to get excellent deals on items that have just gone out of season.

Another great option to buy men’s clothing is online at your favorite retailers, as they will often have sales and discounts on items they have in their online inventory but are not yet in prime season.

The most expensive items in your fall capsule wardrobe are the ones you want to focus on, as you can often save a significant amount of money out of season for them.

These big ticket items include:

  • Your dark three-piece suit and blazer
  • Overcoats and jackets
  • Dress shoes and sneakers
  • Boots

These items will be some of the most expensive items and can be found discounted out of season. Put these at the forefront of your fall capsule wardrobe search.

#4 What Are The Best Fall Capsule Wardrobe Essentials?

man shopping for clothes

You want to adhere to a few staples when building your fall capsule wardrobe.

Since fall weather can vary, layering will be essential. These few items are crucial as mainstays that can be layered with other items within your wardrobe.

For example, if you experience a rather chilly day in fall and need to wear a suit, an overcoat is essential as that outermost layer because you can simply remove it when you no longer need it.

When it comes to the concept of layering within your fall capsule wardrobe, you want to make sure you nail these following items.

Overcoats

man wearing overcoat

Having a good overcoat to complement your fall capsule wardrobe is crucial.

The overcoat acts as the outermost layer and will be removed whenever you go indoors. This makes for a great option as you can wear it with anything as it offers excellent versatility.

When searching for the perfect overcoat, it’s essential to know your size as they usually come in sizes of suit jackets, not regular sizing. After you’ve nailed the size, focus on color.

Dark-colored overcoats tend to be the most versatile. However, a light camel color can work as well. Stay away from patterns with overcoats as the goal is to be as versatile as possible.

Leather Jackets

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A good leather jacket goes a long way. You can choose a leather biker jacket or a leather bomber; it’s your call.

Biker jackets can be slightly harder to pull off as most of the time, they will have a larger and more aggressive collar, but they still look great.

A leather bomber jacket is an excellent option because it looks great on all body types and often has more options than biker jackets.

For color, opt for black or dark brown, as that gives you the most versatility with other items in your fall capsule wardrobe.

Sweaters

man wearing sweater

Sweaters are to fall, what t-shirts are for summer. This means they are a critical piece as they are season specific and offer great versatility when it comes to layering.

So how do you find the perfect sweater?

You want options, so have a couple of different collar choices to give yourself the most bang for your buck.

Having a shawl neck sweater and a crew neck sweater ensures you have all your bases covered.

Make sure you choose neutral tones such as greys, creams, and tans for color. This ensures maximum versatility with other items within your wardrobe and gives you the most options.

That’s it, gents.

To learn more about how versatile this concept of capsule wardrobes can be, check out how I turned 16 pieces of clothing into 256 outfits.

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The Best Zara Fragrances

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We all know of Zara and I’m pretty sure the majority of us own at least one piece from them, but I’m not here to talk about their reasonably priced clothing, I’m here for their fragrance.

Not quite a hidden gem but I don’t feel that they vast range and high quality fragrance that they create is given enough air time, I’m about to change that. The fragrance game is massive at the moment, everyone from the big fashion houses all the way to footballers have a scent on the market and they all carry a hefty price tag, with some of the bigger hitters asking in excess of

£100 for 50ml.

Zara clearly understand the need for a great fragrance but also appreciate not everything has to be overly expensive. I’ve been lucky enough to sample my fair share over the years and wanted to share with you what I feel are some of their strongest.

Tobacco Collective 100ml – £16.99

This is one of my absolute favourites, it works perfectly as an everyday scent. The initial smell is strong and masculine but with undertones of vanilla bourbon help to soften it slightly.

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For Him 100ml – £22.99

My current daily spray, its warm, modern and intense. It just so happens to be the perfect blend of three of my favourite scents, bergamot, cardamom and sandalwood. It’s strong yet light, never over powering and leaves a wonderful trail.

Florence 100ml – £16.24

Summer calls for a fresh fragrance and I cannot recommend this highly enough, its light, fresh and citrus scent is perfectly for those warmer days. Notes of black pepper, strawberry and guaiac wood allow this scent to sit gently on the skin with offending the noses of those around you.

Written by Tom Loughran

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