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Do I think I’m successful? Do you think I know how to succeed in business?

In many ways – the answer is ‘yes’. I’ve certainly achieved a lot of my professional and personal goals in life.

But I’ve also had failures along the way. Setbacks are all part of a man’s journey to success.

The many different experiences I’ve gone through over the years have been incredibly valuable to me. They’ve been my source of inspiration for knowing what works and what doesn’t. After all – with experience comes knowledge and wisdom.

But what if you’re starting out? How can you know the dos and don’ts of building a business if you lack the experience necessary to have gained wisdom in the school of hard knocks?

Gents, that’s where I come in. I’m going to take you through 18 of the lessons I’ve learned over the years, so you guys don’t have to make the same mistakes in order to grow as entrepreneurs.

Let’s get started.

Business Lesson #1 – No Man Is An Island

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When I first became an entrepreneur 10 years ago, I was on my own. A lone wolf.

I had all the ideas, but I never took the time to share these ideas with like-minded men. Guys, this was a great hindrance to my personal development as a business owner.

I’m much happier now, not just because my business has been making money, but also because of the people I’ve made connections with. Humans are social beings, after all.

An entrepreneur’s journey shouldn’t be a solo one. There are people who’ll want to support you. People who’ve been there and got the t-shirt who can provide solid advice. Kind of like what I’m doing for you gents in this article.

This may sound odd, but reach out to other entrepreneurs in your industry.

That’s right, your competitors. Why? They’ll be your best buddies. I enjoy hanging out with Aaron Marino (Alpha M) because our businesses thrive within the same niche.

Through friendly competition and beneficial collaboration, we push each other to excel in ways we never thought we could. Competition is the fuelling factor behind men that know how to succeed in business.

Business Lesson #2 – Build Good Relationships

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How would you react to a guy who approaches you and says, “Hi, I’m __. I have this great business idea. Want to work with me?”

Never works.

Why not? Because as an entrepreneur, you’re not hard-selling on the street.

The key to developing good business relationships is being personable – let other people warm up to you and your ideas before throwing business plans in their faces.

Go in too strong, and you might only turn them off by clearly showing your agenda before getting to know them.

To build real relationships, you need to connect with people personally – life isn’t all about brass tax.

Next time you’re at a networking event, try starting conversations with small talk. Finding out common interests will help you learn how to succeed in business.

Let your conversation be organic, and trust that the subject of business will come up naturally in the flow of friendly conversation.

Business Lesson #3 – Prioritize Your Time

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Instead of saying “I don’t have time” for this or that, simply tell yourself to avoid doing what’s NOT important.

When you plan your time, it’s vital that you immediately pinpoint whether or not a certain task is a priority (meaning it’ll directly affect your business).

Considering scheduling an hour into your day to play video games with your buddies? Fine – but just think about what else you could be doing with that time. Could you instead spend that hour researching in your field of business?

Now – I’m not saying to completely rid yourself of your social life. That will just lead to business burnout which is a dangerous thing.

What I am saying is consider your time as the most valuable thing you own. Spend it wisely and make sure the majority of it goes towards improving what you’re passionate about. Self-awareness is a key factor when considering how to succeed in business.

Business Lesson #4 – Say NO More Often Than You Say YES

Being a “yes” man is dangerous. If there are more things you commit to instead of reject, you’ll be saying no to the crucial stuff later on.

Your time is finite. Your energy for the day is limited. So outside of family and those you’re obliged to, avoid accepting requests that may compromise your business goals.

If people know you as a guy that rarely says yes to a proposition, chances are they’ll take you more seriously when you do come around to their ideas and suggestions.

Business Lesson #5 – Apply The Pareto Principle

Have you ever heard of the “80-20 Rule” by economist Vilfredo Pareto?

For those not in the know – it’s an economical theory founded in 1906 when Pareto discovered that 20% of the Italian people owned 80% of all the wealth in Italy.

From this statistic, Pareto formulated the broader theory that 20% of your efforts in anything yields 80% of your total return.

So what’s the point here?

Simple: your immediate focus should be on how to succeed in business. Spending the first 20% of your time being productive and growing your empire will theoretically produce a bigger yield than doing so in the final 20% of your day.

As such, you should consider all other tasks in your checklist as secondary items that can be pushed back for later in the day, next week, or even next month.

Business Lesson #6 – Don’t Lie To Yourself

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“I’ll make that deadline.”

“I can have my channel launched according to schedule.”

“There’s nothing more about my product to improve.”

Sometimes these statements might be true – but a lot of the time phrases like these are just excuses to avoid extra work.

You might be able to kid those around you – but what’s the point in lying to yourself? At the end of the day – if your gut tells you everything isn’t 100% set, chances are you’re lying to yourself.

There’s no shame in not meeting personal deadlines now and again. It’s better to admit it to yourself early on and consider how you can manage things better in the future than continue to lie to yourself and allow your business to suffer as a result.

Business Lesson #7 – Listen To Those You Respect

Sorry to break it to you, gents. The fact is you don’t know everything there is to know about your business niche and never will.

That’s okay – no single man knows everything. However, get 10 similar guys in the same room and the chances of widespread knowledge significantly rise.

My point is – consider your own knowledge limited at all times and don’t be afraid to listen to the advice of those you respect.

Now I’m not saying listen to everybody – while you want to be open to constructive feedback and suggestions, be selective with those you listen to. It’s okay to hear what different people say, but learn to block out the comments of those who are out to put you down and stunt your growth.

By now, your mind should already be made up on who you trust to give constructive feedback on how to succeed in business.

Ask yourself: whose voices really matter to me? Who has followed their own advice and succeeded?

Who do you really respect? The list might be short – but those guys will be like fountains of knowledge for you to gain great insights from.

Business Lesson #8 – Be Independent

Now I know I just said to listen to those around you. After all – listening is a good thing.

However, dropping back on your authority by letting others make decisions for you? That’s not such a good thing.

Remember: it’s your life. It’s your business in the making. It’s your vision.

If you want to take pride in your future successes – it’s vital to call the shots and be ready to face the consequences of those decisions.

That’s the only way you’ll stay clear of anyone who tries to deceive or manipulate you for their own personal gain. The fact is entrepreneurship is like jungle survival – you’re either a fierce predator or helpless prey.

Business Lesson #9 – Create A Good Working Environment

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There’s a reason I maintain a good atmosphere and a drama-free environment at RMRS – I want my company associated with positivity.

It’s important to me that people know my brand as one that builds others up instead of tearing them down. Sure, some ideas I might contest and suggest improvements on – but this is always done in the spirit of aiding personal development rather than indulging in arrogance.

I believe in good karma, gents. Treat others how you wish to be treated yourself and you’re pretty much guaranteed to get the best result from those who work from you.

Business Lesson #10 – Know Your Worth

high value man

Every entrepreneur should treat customers like the most important people around. After all – your customers are essentially the people you rely on to pay the bills. Without them – your business could run at a loss.

Of course, every man has to have expectations and self-respect. Being good to your customers doesn’t mean giving them whatever they want whenever they want.

‘The customer is not always right – but they are the customer. So if they are wrong, let them be wrong with dignity and respect.’ – Shep Hyken

For example – my business is providing good advice to men looking to improve their style. I’ll pass on my thoughts, constructive criticisms, and help in every single way that I possibly can. However, it’s not my place to go out and buy every single one of my customers a new wardrobe from my own pocket.

What I’m trying to say is you should treat your customers well within the boundaries of your service. Be patient, be kind but don’t let them take you for a ride.

Business Lesson #11 – Accept Your Weaknesses

man accepting own weakness

You’re not good at everything.

It’s hard to admit – I know.

However, I’ll let you in on a little secret. Turning yourself into an expert in every aspect of your business is harder work than simply employing someone who can do the job better than you can.

Straight after reading this article, I want you guys to identify where your weaknesses lie.

By doing this, you will gain insight into the areas of your business model that you might need to employ someone to assist with. Even if it means hiring a sales guy who takes 25% of the loot, it’s the better option if selling isn’t your forte.

In the long run – employing an expert at a cost will actually end up increasing your future profits. Sure, it might sting at first but trust me when I say that paying the right man for the job pays off more often than not.

Business Lesson #12 – Success Isn’t Guaranteed

Many people understandably prefer a guaranteed paycheck with a fixed sum of money.

No risk, uncertainty, or sleepless nights.

However, knowing how to succeed in business is also accepting that what you’re doing is risky. You’ve got to make decisions based on faith, even if there’s little evidence your plan will work.

With risk comes the possibility of both failure and success. At the end of the day, entrepreneurship is about playing your best hand and working with what you’ve got.

Just be aware that sometimes you might fail. That’s okay – pick yourself back up, dust off the scuffs, and carry on with the grind.

Business Lesson #13 – Face Your Fears

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Never let fear stop you from taking action – let it push you forward into succeeding like you never thought you could.

If you’re scared of the unknown, don’t forget that every entrepreneur has been there and every future one will be.

In most cases, taking a calculated risk (one that you’ve researched and concluded to be worthwhile) is a better way of succeeding than taking a leap of faith.

After all, the more realistic your goals look, the better you’ll manage your fears.

Knowing how to succeed in business is all about weighing up the pros and cons and acting regardless of the fear that comes with risky decisions.

Business Lesson #14 – Embrace Failure

Rejections will come. Disappointments will be felt.

Don’t let them prevent you from trying again and again until you get it right. You decide when to stop.

A good mantra for any entrepreneur is:

When you fail, fail fast.

Basically: pick yourself back up the very second you fall.

Success is all about the ways you reassess your failings and search for something else that works. Only consider quitting if:

  1. You feel you’ve tried everything doable
  2. People you care for are negatively affected.

Business Lesson #15 – Own Your Business (Don’t Let It Own You)

men wearing navy suits

Bear in mind that you’re a person first and an entrepreneur second.

You must establish barriers between the business and non-business aspects of your life. Otherwise, you’ll end up living the same narrative as those workaholics in Click and The Devil Wears Prada.

A long-term goal you should strive towards is the total systematization of your business so it can eventually run on its own. That means you won’t have to sacrifice so much personal time to constantly check up on things.

Family and personal relationships should always take priority – don’t let your home life suffer for the sake of profit. After all – what’s the use in money if you haven’t got a great family to enjoy it with?

Business Lesson #16 – Work Smart And Know Your Limits

Know this: the average entrepreneur works effectively for 35 hours a week (not 40).

The problem with more hours is you tend to expand the time it takes to complete a certain task rather than use your time effectively.

Fewer hours will help you cut all the “fat” off your agenda each day. You’ll focus on what really matters to gain the highest possible returns.

It’s important to note that as you work, you become more and more tired. Somewhere within your day you’ll reach peak performance and from that moment your productivity levels will begin to drop. Managing your time correctly and knowing when enough is enough is a key skill when considering how to succeed in business.

Business Lesson #17 – Never Stop Learning

man writing

Whether you’re fresh out of college or have 20 years’ managerial experience in the bag, learning never ends.

No matter how much you think you know, you can always read or listen to new ideas and perspectives. That’s how to stay on top your game as an entrepreneur.

As the years pass, more and more new information becomes available on business theory and market economics. If you don’t keep up to date on the latest research, chances are your business will fall behind the times and fade into obscurity.

In order to avoid this – make sure you’re always improving your knowledge bank. Listen to podcasts, read books and watch documentaries on your own business interests. Doing so will not only keep you up to date but will also provide you with a more productive pastime than that games console in your lounge ever could.

Business Lesson #18 – Take Good Care Of Your Body

attractive older man in good shape

I once attended a coaching program in Chicago along with 50 other business owners, most of whom were more successful than I was.

We were all asked what we’d like to improve about ourselves in the next three years.

Surprisingly, 75% of those great men mentioned their health when considering how to succeed in business and improve their lives in general.

If even successful people who presumably have lots of money might have trouble taking care of themselves, what about new entrepreneurs?

It’s a medical fact that your body needs the right nutrition, plus enough rest and exercise in order for you to stay sharp and productive. What’s the use in a great brain if you haven’t provided your body with the correct nutrition to fuel it at 100% capacity?

My advice would be to invest in healthy foods that will help to fuel your body and mind for a day of good hustling. Don’t let what you eat get in the way of your potential successes. Sure, burgers are pretty nice – but profits are much, much nicer.

18 Lessons I Learned As An Entrepreneur

There we have it, gents – 18 important lessons I’m passing on to current and future entrepreneurs who need clarity on succeeding in business.

At the end of the day, every man will learn from his own achievements and errors along his path to business success. Despite my experience – there will be items missing from this list. Not because I forgot to put them in, but simply because I’m still learning myself.

After all these years, I can still confirm that running a business isn’t easy. However, with the right preparation and the right people around you – success will eventually come knocking on the door.

Just be patient, stay consistent, and always have fun along the way!

Good luck, gentlemen.

Want to know more about how to succeed in business? Check out my 5 tips to create the perfect business card.

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The Ultimate Guide to Luxurious Shaving: A Closer Look at Captain Fawcett’s Premier Shaving Gift Set

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In the world of men’s grooming, shaving is more than just a daily ritual; it’s an art form that demands the finest tools and products to achieve perfection. Captain Fawcett, a brand renowned for its commitment to traditional grooming excellence, offers two remarkable shaving gift sets that cater to the discerning gentleman: the Faux Shave Brush, Razor & Soap Gift Set. Let’s dive into what makes these set exceptional and why they should be a staple in every man’s grooming arsenal.

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The Faux Shave Brush, Razor & Soap Gift Set

Elegance and Simplicity in One Package

For those who seek elegance and simplicity in their shaving routine, the Faux Shave Brush, Razor & Soap Gift Set is an outstanding choice. This set encapsulates the essentials of a refined shaving experience, presented in a stylish and practical manner.

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What’s Inside:

  1. Razor – This set features a sleek, modern razor designed for ease of use and superior performance. Its balanced weight and ergonomic design make it a pleasure to handle, ensuring a close, comfortable shave every time.
  2. Shaving Brush – The faux shave brush included in this set is crafted with synthetic bristles that offer the softness and performance of natural hair without compromising on durability. Its design ensures a rich lather and gentle application, enhancing the shaving experience.
  3. Shaving Soap – The shaving soap in this set is carefully formulated to create a thick, luxurious lather. It softens the beard and protects the skin, facilitating a smooth, irritation-free shave. The soap’s subtle fragrance adds a touch of sophistication to your morning routine.

Why Choose the Faux Shave Brush, Razor & Soap Gift Set?

This set is ideal for the gentleman who appreciates a no-nonsense approach to grooming without sacrificing quality and style. It provides all the essentials needed for a superior shave, packaged in a way that exudes elegance and simplicity.

Conclusion

The Faux Shave Brush, Razor & Soap Gift Set from Captain Fawcett is exceptional choices for anyone looking to elevate their shaving experience. Whether you are drawn to the rich tradition of Italian barbering or prefer a straightforward, elegant approach to grooming, these sets offer the perfect blend of quality, craftsmanship, and luxury. Treat yourself or the special man in your life to the gift of a superior shave, and transform a daily routine into a moment of indulgence and sophistication.

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Ultimate Rainwear Guide: How Stylish Men Stay Dry

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man wearing a long and dramatic tan trench coat over a green tweed suit and tall brown rubber rain boots, holding an elegant wood-handled umbrella

One of the more challenging aspects of curating good style is what to do when the weather takes a downturn and the skies begin to downpour.

It’s all very well and good to have a good outfit, but what’s the use if you get caught in the rain and end up looking like something the cat dragged in?

Let’s be real for a second. Your Maison Margiela GATs may be nice, but they’re a lot less impressive if you get them (and the rest of your fit) absolutely soaked.

Thankfully, a man needn’t venture forth into the storm unprepared. As luck would have it, there are plenty of options to stay dry. The ingenuity of some rainwear may present itself through its utilitarianism, purely serving a functional purpose to protect the real clothing underneath. Other times, rainwear can be just as stylish and statement-worthy all on its own.

From good, sturdy rain boots to elegant umbrellas, there’s a whole world of options to keep you dry. The best kind of gentleman is one who is always prepared.

The following guide delves into the stuff of sailors to tasteful pieces worn by aristocrats. All of it though, will thwart the rain the way it ought to.

From the Boots on Up

dark green rubber rain boots in a puddle

When it’s storming out, your choice of footwear can truly make or break the rest of your day. After all, there’s hardly anything worse than soggy socks. But luckily, you’ve got what to choose from here.

While there do exist waterproof leather shoes and water resistant sneakers, sometimes, your best option is going to be a good pair of rain boots.

There are several major variations of rainboot, differing in materials, height, and general aesthetics.

L.L. Bean Boots

L.L. Bean Boots

Also frequently and more generically referred to as “duck boots”, these boots are an American classic with a slightly rugged, casual appeal, though they can be paired with smart casual styles to great effect, especially if you’re trying to capture the aesthetic of the American northeast.

Constructed from a contrasting rubber sole stitched onto a supple leather upper, L.L. Bean Boots are admittedly a bit of a “Frankenshoe,” though their character is undeniably charming. They’ve retained their original design since 1912. Sewn in their origin state of Maine, these embody the spirit of New England life and look great with anything from jeans, to khakis, to corduroys. They’re affordable too, running only a bit over $100 for their signature pair.

2. Rubber Chelsea Boots

Rubber Chelsea Boots

Another smart option, these tend to lean a bit more sophisticated in their simplicity. Easy to pull on and off with tabs typically affixed to the uppers, chelsea boots work with nearly every type of outfit combination. Heck, you can even pair them with a suit. Consider brands like Totes, Barbour, Hunter, Sperry, and Blundstone.

3. Tall Rain Boots

Tall Rain Boots

As their name suggests, these are the tallest type of rain boots you can buy without getting into wader territory. Typically made from rubber, these will keep you dry in almost anything, even during periods of flooding.

To get the most out of these it’s recommended that you tuck your pants into them to stay fully dry. Available from iconic brands like Hunter, Burberry, and Barbour, these are the most effective rain boots around. Even British royalty has been known to make use of these.

Pertaining to Pants

Before we move on to raincoats, the arguably most important rainwear component, we wanted to take a moment to make a note on pants. Particularly, what kinds are best for rainy weather, and which kinds of pants to avoid.

For the most part, you want something that can get a bit wet without soaking through. These will usually be thicker, more tightly-woven fabrics. Heavier jeans will usually do the job, but corduroy pants aren’t a bad bet either. Try to avoid thin, loosely-knit fabric pants in the rain, like some types of chinos and especially linen.

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Ultimately though, this part isn’t necessarily the biggest deal, since a good rainwear outfit will almost certainly include a quality raincoat.

Picking a Proper Raincoat

This part is easier said than done. At first glance, there appear to be a myriad of options for protective rain garments. But not all of these are created equal, and some will earn you more style points than others. We’re here to guide you in the right direction – so listen up!

Trench Coats

Double Breasted Cotton Gabardine Trench Coat

Some more modern iterations have tried to cut down on the length for the sake of trends, but try to avoid these. The classic length should at least hit your knees, if not even longer.

Shorter trenches are a bit of a misfire because they feel somewhat neutered, like the coat is ashamed to be what it is.

A longer length isn’t just more effective due to coverage – it looks better, too! Worn open or closed, a long trench coat packs a ton of drama.

Some trench coats include removable linings that add a bit of warmth. While they rarely work as a true winter coat, with and without a good insulating lining, trenches can be used for three out the four seasons in a typical year.

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Classic colors like khaki/tan, black, olive, and navy go with most colors, and are just as good casually as it is with a suit.

You can find plenty available second-hand on marketplaces like eBay, but there’s nothing wrong with buying new if you can afford it. Brands like Burberry, London Fog, Ralph Lauren, Hugo Boss, Armani, and others are great places to look in both new and more affordable second-hand markets.

Parkas and Field Jackets

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While trench coats can work casually, sometimes you want something a bit more contemporary – and warm.

A good water resistant field jacket will keep you dry, while the insulation provided by a parka jacket will keep you dry and warm. Almost all parkas have a hood, as do some field jackets. Brands like L.L. Bean, Patagonia, and Brooks Brothers all carry good options.

Waxed Jackets

Barbour Ashby Wax Jacket in Olive

Arguably one of the finest pieces you can add to any smart casual ensemble, a quality waxed jacket is also an incredibly versatile piece of rainwear. The most famous one in particular comes courtesy of British brand Barbour, known for their iconic design and practicality.

They aren’t the cheapest, and there are more affordable brands for a decent waxed jacket, but Barbour models are a worthy investment to make. Most familiar in shades of brown or olive with a contrasting corduroy collar, the waxed texture of these jackets repels rainwater and keeps the wearer nice and dry.

Mac Jackets

Mac Jacket

A close cousin to the trench coat but without the double-breasted (and often belted) enclosure, mac or “macintosh” jackets are a simpler take on the raincoat, and often run a bit shorter, as well, typically ending around the knee or lower thighs.

They’re somewhat similar to the “car coat,” a type of overcoat named so due to its ease of use getting in and out of a vehicle. Classic and contemporary, you can’t go wrong with a mac.

Pack an Umbrella

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Lastly, you shouldn’t overlook an umbrella! It seems that some fellas don’t want to bother with umbrellas at times because they believe they’re seen as a bit “fussy.” And truth be told, a bad umbrella will be fussy, especially as it blows around in the wind and collapses in on itself, leaving you drenched.

But a quality umbrella can make a major difference. We’re not introducing anything radical here – umbrellas work, obviously. But investing in a quality one is well worth your while. There are also umbrellas featuring luxurious materials such as finely crafted wooden handles, such as various models available from brands like Church’s and Burberry.

However, size can matter, too! A skimpy, wimpy little umbrella may be convenient if it fits in your bag, but a proper, generously sized umbrella will keep you and a potential date dry in the stories of conditions. Don’t underestimate the gentleman points you can score with the right one.

Stay Dry, Fellas

From good boots to fashionable raincoats, having the right equipment for the rain almost eliminates the restrictions that bad weather can impose. You’ll never be underprepared or underdressed, and knowing how to get suited up properly for rainy conditions is something of a minor life skill, if you ask us. No one wants to show up somewhere looking like a wet dog. So don’t!

Get yourself some proper rainwear. And stay dry, fellas.

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Common Mistakes Guys Make in Black Tie Attire

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Man wearing a black tuxedo with a white pleated tuxedo shirt and a black bow tie

For most people, “black tie” is pretty much the most formal dress code there is. While technically surpassed by white tie, black tie attire is the more common, modern pinnacle of formal wear that the majority of people will actually experience on some occasions throughout their lifetime.

Whether for formal weddings, lavish galas, or opening night at the opera, black tie is all about following a fairly strict set of rules and adhering to a uniform look – and much less about standing out from a crowd. When an event calls for black tie, you want to fit in, and that means getting all the little details just so.

Unfortunately, as formal wear inches toward a more casual direction, some guys frequently make a number of common mistakes when putting together their black tie ensemble.

While some of these might seem a bit nit-picky, proper attention to detail is a fundamental principle of black tie attire. So, it’s important to be aware of common missteps one can make while ascending the black tie ladder.

Mistake #1: Wearing a Black Necktie Instead of a Bow Tie

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You’d be surprised at how often this one occurs! For some guys who may be less familiar with the true definition of black tie, or even for those trying to somewhat “modernize” their outfit, this is one mistake to avoid at all costs.

While a black necktie is certainly a black tie in the most literal sense, the black tie dress code strictly calls for a black bow tie – made from the same silk-satin materials as the lapels of one’s tuxedo, that is.

You can’t simply swap one out for the other. We get it – you’re afraid that a bow tie will make you look dorky. But given the context of a proper black tie outfit, we assure you that the result is anything but. It looks smart, put-together, and signals that you understand and appreciate the rich history of menswear.

Just put a bow on it. And save the black necktie for funerals.

Mistake #2: Using a Black Suit as a Stand-in for a Tuxedo

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This is arguably the most egregious fashion sin on this rather long list of other fashion sins, but it cannot be understated enough – do not do this under any circumstances! We have your best interests at heart here, truly.

So, you got an invite to a black tie event, but you don’t own a tux. Ah well, you think to yourself, my plain black suit should work just fine.

While we understand that not everyone will just have a tuxedo on stand-by, waiting for them in their closet, to the discerning eye, you’ll unfortunately just look out of place if you attempt this. A proper tux differs from a regular black suit in a few fairly distinctive ways, and it’ll just look off.

Mistake #3: Mind Your Waist

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According to the black tie dress code, the waistline of one’s pants should never be exposed. Traditionally, men don an additional low-cut waistcoat or vest, or, more commonly, a silk-satin waist sash known as a cummerbund.

In recent years, more and more men have been neglecting this rule, and the results are somewhat unappealing.

The visual and aesthetic purpose of a waist covering is that it elongates the legs and lower torso, while preventing the white of one’s shirt from peeking out below the jacket’s buttoning point. Overall, it contributes to a cleaner, sleeker look.

Some men are a bit intimidated by the inclusion of a waistcoat or cummerbund, as they fear it will make them look old-fashioned. And while to some aesthetic tastes, that very well might be the case – that’s kind of the whole point of black tie attire. It’s about tradition!

Don’t disrupt the flow. Follow this rule, and you’ll look ten times better.

The only possible exception comes about when concerning a double-breasted tuxedo, which many feel renders a waist covering somewhat redundant.

However, if you’re accustomed to unbuttoning your double-breasted jacket while sitting, some believe it is then once again appropriate, even suggested, that you wear a waist covering.

Mistake #4: Thrown for a Loop

man wearing tuxedo pants with a satin stripe down the side, with belt loops and a belt

Some men have the privilege of designing for themselves a custom tuxedo, and while this presents many exciting possibilities and will likely ensure a great fit, it’s important to be aware of what kind of details you ought to leave off the tux.

A good tailor will suggest otherwise if you ask for them, but there do exist custom tuxedos that for some reason, have belt loops on the waistband of the pants.

For pretty much any other attire, these are an aesthetic and/or functional choice, but tux pants are traditionally held in place by either side-tab adjusters or suspenders – and often already have the necessary buttons sewn within.

Perhaps even worse than neglecting to wear a cummerbund or waistcoat is by breaking up the sleek harmony between the pants and the jacket with a belt. Be warned!

Mistake #5: Picking the Right Shoes

pair of black derby shoes next to a pair of shiny patent leather oxford shoes

While you certainly have options to choose from regarding proper black tie footwear, don’t just settle for any old black shoe. Often, men will just assume that their existing pair of black “dress” shoes are good enough to go with their tux, but sometimes, they’re a bit misinformed.

As a rule, try to avoid black derbies. While you’ve got the color right, a derby style shoe is considered relatively casual and contrasts too strongly with the formality of a tuxedo.

Instead, opt for either black oxford shoes or opera pumps.

For the former, the simpler, the better. Avoid wingtip oxfords, and certainly types with excessive detailing, such as brogues. A cap-toe is also considered to be a casualizing detail, though you theoretically could get away with it so long as the shoe is a true closed-lace oxford (though this isn’t really recommended).

Opera pumps are a sort of dress loafer/slipper hybrid, and another valid choice for black tie.

Looking to go all-in? Consider oxfords or opera pumps in patent leather, a type of high-sheen gloss finish that truly sparkles and is iconic to black tie attire.

Mistake #6: Shirking Proper Shirts

man wearing a plain white dress shirt with a bow tie and with a tuxedo  next to a man wearing a tuxedo with a proper pleated front white shirt with a bow tie

When selecting the right shirt to go with your outfit, don’t assume that any old white dress shirt will do. In fact, traditional, proper tuxedo dress shirts differ in a few ways, and even come in a few variations.

For one, they will typically feature either a pique bib or pleated front, and the top few buttons are ideally fastened with a set of shirt studs (also known as tuxedo studs).

Additionally, a proper formal shirt will always include french cuffs, to be fastened with a pair of cufflinks. It is common practice for these to be part of a matching set along with the studs, but not required, necessarily.

Lastly, pay attention to the collar. The most contemporary option is a typical spread collar, ideal for the width of a bow tie. However, some opt for a wing collar shirt, which stands up along the neck and features two “wings” that stick up in front, to be tucked behind your bow tie.

So, you’ve got options to play with. But don’t just settle for a generic white dress shirt. Get it right, and it’ll make a world of difference.

Mistake #7: Knot Quite!

clip-on black bow tie

Look, we get it. Tying a bow tie isn’t the easiest for some people, especially if you haven’t done it before. And the plethora of perfectly nice-looking pre-tied options you can find online might look tempting! But that’s just the thing. They might be a bit too perfect.

See, most pre-tied bow ties, whether the kind you fasten from behind, or their far more egregious cousin, the dreaded clip-on, feature a knot that looks too damn immaculate and hardly ever shifts.

While you might like the sound of that, the pre-tied knot’s perfection is also its downfall. It just gives it away and ends up having the opposite effect. Instead of looking sharp, it can look a bit silly.

There’s something to be said about the raw authenticity of a well-tied, but not-quite symmetrical knot, doone by hand. You should aim to get it looking as neat as you can – but never quite perfect. That’s the magic, and why it’s worthwhile to learn and practice tying your own bow tie.

Stay Sharp

black tie attire clothing items

If you can manage to avoid these pitfalls, and follow the rules, there’s no doubt in our mind that you’ll look absolutely great at your next black tie event.

While much of fashion is about experimentation and flashy expression, it’s important to understand the purpose of black tie – that is, to respect a certain level of decorum and uniform.

That doesn’t mean you can’t look great while doing it, though. On the contrary! Stick to the script, make some informed decisions, and your black tie outfit will truly shine in the night.

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By: Antonio Centeno
Title: Common Mistakes Guys Make in Black Tie Attire
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Published Date: Fri, 12 Jul 2024 15:36:07 +0000

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