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Do I think I’m successful? Do you think I know how to succeed in business?

In many ways – the answer is ‘yes’. I’ve certainly achieved a lot of my professional and personal goals in life.

But I’ve also had failures along the way. Setbacks are all part of a man’s journey to success.

The many different experiences I’ve gone through over the years have been incredibly valuable to me. They’ve been my source of inspiration for knowing what works and what doesn’t. After all – with experience comes knowledge and wisdom.

But what if you’re starting out? How can you know the dos and don’ts of building a business if you lack the experience necessary to have gained wisdom in the school of hard knocks?

Gents, that’s where I come in. I’m going to take you through 18 of the lessons I’ve learned over the years, so you guys don’t have to make the same mistakes in order to grow as entrepreneurs.

Let’s get started.

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Business Lesson #1 – No Man Is An Island

When I first became an entrepreneur 10 years ago, I was on my own. A lone wolf.

I had all the ideas, but I never took the time to share these ideas with like-minded men. Guys, this was a great hindrance to my personal development as a business owner.

I’m much happier now, not just because my business has been making money, but also because of the people I’ve made connections with. Humans are social beings, after all.

An entrepreneur’s journey shouldn’t be a solo one. There are people who’ll want to support you. People who’ve been there and got the t-shirt who can provide solid advice. Kind of like what I’m doing for you gents in this article.

This may sound odd, but reach out to other entrepreneurs in your industry.

That’s right, your competitors. Why? They’ll be your best buddies. I enjoy hanging out with Aaron Marino (Alpha M) because our businesses thrive within the same niche.

Through friendly competition and beneficial collaboration, we push each other to excel in ways we never thought we could. Competition is the fuelling factor behind men that know how to succeed in business.

 

Business Lesson #2 – Build Good Relationships

How would you react to a guy who approaches you and says, “Hi, I’m __. I have this great business idea. Want to work with me?”

Never works.

Why not? Because as an entrepreneur, you’re not hard-selling on the street.

The key to developing good business relationships is being personable – let other people warm up to you and your ideas before throwing business plans in their faces.

Go in too strong, and you might only turn them off by clearly showing your agenda before getting to know them.

To build real relationships, you need to connect with people personally – life isn’t all about brass tax.

Next time you’re at a networking event, try starting conversations with small talk. Finding out common interests will help you learn how to succeed in business.

Let your conversation be organic, and trust that the subject of business will come up naturally in the flow of friendly conversation.

 

Business Lesson #3 – Prioritize Your Time

Instead of saying “I don’t have time” for this or that, simply tell yourself to avoid doing what’s NOT important.

When you plan your time, it’s vital that you immediately pinpoint whether or not a certain task is a priority (meaning it’ll directly affect your business).

Considering scheduling an hour into your day to play video games with your buddies? Fine – but just think about what else you could be doing with that time. Could you instead spend that hour researching in your field of business?

Now – I’m not saying to completely rid yourself of your social life. That will just lead to business burnout which is a dangerous thing.

What I am saying is consider your time as the most valuable thing you own. Spend it wisely and make sure the majority of it goes towards improving what you’re passionate about. Self-awareness is a key factor when considering how to succeed in business.

 

Business Lesson #4 – Say NO More Often Than You Say YES

Being a “yes” man is dangerous. If there are more things you commit to instead of reject, you’ll be saying no to the crucial stuff later on.

Your time is finite. Your energy for the day is limited. So outside of family and those you’re obliged to, avoid accepting requests that may compromise your business goals.

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If people know you as a guy that rarely says yes to a proposition, chances are they’ll take you more seriously when you do come around to their ideas and suggestions.

 

Business Lesson #5 – Apply The Pareto Principle

Have you ever heard of the “80-20 Rule” by economist Vilfredo Pareto?

For those not in the know – it’s an economical theory founded in 1906 when Pareto discovered that 20% of the Italian people owned 80% of all the wealth in Italy.

From this statistic, Pareto formulated the broader theory that 20% of your efforts in anything yields 80% of your total return.

So what’s the point here?

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Simple: your immediate focus should be on how to succeed in business. Spending the first 20% of your time being productive and growing your empire will theoretically produce a bigger yield than doing so in the final 20% of your day.

As such, you should consider all other tasks in your checklist as secondary items that can be pushed back for later in the day, next week, or even next month.

 

Business Lesson #6 – Don’t Lie To Yourself

“I’ll make that deadline.”

“I can have my channel launched according to schedule.”

“There’s nothing more about my product to improve.”

Sometimes these statements might be true – but a lot of the time phrases like these are just excuses to avoid extra work.

You might be able to kid those around you – but what’s the point in lying to yourself? At the end of the day – if your gut tells you everything isn’t 100% set, chances are you’re lying to yourself.

There’s no shame in not meeting personal deadlines now and again. It’s better to admit it to yourself early on and consider how you can manage things better in the future than continue to lie to yourself and allow your business to suffer as a result.

 

Business Lesson #7 – Listen To Those You Respect

Sorry to break it to you, gents. The fact is you don’t know everything there is to know about your business niche and never will.

That’s okay – no single man knows everything. However, get 10 similar guys in the same room and the chances of widespread knowledge significantly rise.

My point is – consider your own knowledge limited at all times and don’t be afraid to listen to the advice of those you respect.

Now I’m not saying listen to everybody – while you want to be open to constructive feedback and suggestions, be selective with those you listen to.  It’s okay to hear what different people say, but learn to block out the comments of those who are out to put you down and stunt your growth.

By now, your mind should already be made up on who you trust to give constructive feedback on how to succeed in business. Ask yourself: whose voices really matter to me? Who has followed their own advice and succeeded?

Who do you really respect? The list might be short – but those guys will be like fountains of knowledge for you to gain great insights from.

 

Business Lesson #8 – Be Independent

Now I know I just said to listen to those around you. After all – listening is a good thing.

However, dropping back on your authority by letting others make decisions for you? That’s not such a good thing.

Remember: it’s your life. It’s your business in the making. It’s your vision.

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If you want to take pride in your future successes – it’s vital to call the shots and be ready to face the consequences of those decisions.

That’s the only way you’ll stay clear of anyone who tries to deceive or manipulate you for their own personal gain. The fact is entrepreneurship is like jungle survival – you’re either a fierce predator or helpless prey.

 

Business Lesson #9 – Create A Good Working Environment

There’s a reason I maintain a good atmosphere and a drama-free environment at RMRS – I want my company associated with positivity.

It’s important to me that people know my brand as one that builds others up instead of tearing them down. Sure, some ideas I might contest and suggest improvements on – but this is always done in the spirit of aiding personal development rather than indulging in arrogance.

I believe in good karma, gents. Treat others how you wish to be treated yourself and you’re pretty much guaranteed to get the best result from those who work from you.

 

Business Lesson #10 – Know Your Worth

Every entrepreneur should treat customers like the most important people around. After all – your customers are essentially the people you rely on to pay the bills. Without them – your business could run at a loss.

Of course, every man has to have expectations and self-respect. Being good to your customers doesn’t mean giving them whatever they want whenever they want.

‘The customer is not always right – but they are the customer. So if they are wrong, let them be wrong with dignity and respect.’ – Shep Hyken

For example – my business is providing good advice to men looking to improve their style. I’ll pass on my thoughts, constructive criticisms, and help in every single way that I possibly can. However, it’s not my place to go out and buy every single one of my customers a new wardrobe from my own pocket.

What I’m trying to say is you should treat your customers well within the boundaries of your service. Be patient, be kind but don’t let them take you for a ride.

 

Business Lesson #11 – Accept Your Weaknesses

You’re not good at everything.

It’s hard to admit – I know.

However, I’ll let you in on a little secret. Turning yourself into an expert in every aspect of your business is harder work than simply employing someone who can do the job better than you can.

Straight after reading this article, I want you guys to identify where your weaknesses lie.

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By doing this, you will gain insight into the areas of your business model that you might need to employ someone to assist with. Even if it means hiring a sales guy who takes 25% of the loot, it’s the better option if selling isn’t your forte.

In the long run – employing an expert at a cost will actually end up increasing your future profits. Sure, it might sting at first but trust me when I say that paying the right man for the job pays off more often than not.

 

Business Lesson #12 – Success Isn’t Guaranteed

Many people understandably prefer a guaranteed paycheck with a fixed sum of money.

No risk, uncertainty, or sleepless nights.

However, knowing how to succeed in business is also accepting that what you’re doing is risky. You’ve got to make decisions based on faith, even if there’s little evidence your plan will work.

With risk comes the possibility of both failure and success. At the end of the day, entrepreneurship is about playing your best hand and working with what you’ve got.

Just be aware that sometimes you might fail. That’s okay – pick yourself back up, dust off the scuffs, and carry on with the grind.

 

Business Lesson #13 – Face Your Fears

Never let fear stop you from taking action – let it push you forward into succeeding like you never thought you could.

If you’re scared of the unknown, don’t forget that every entrepreneur has been there and every future one will be.

In most cases, taking a calculated risk (one that you’ve researched and concluded to be worthwhile) is a better way of succeeding than taking a leap of faith.

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After all, the more realistic your goals look, the better you’ll manage your fears.

Knowing how to succeed in business is all about weighing up the pros and cons and acting regardless of the fear that comes with risky decisions.

 

Business Lesson #14 – Embrace Failure

Rejections will come. Disappointments will be felt.

Don’t let them prevent you from trying again and again until you get it right. You decide when to stop.

A good mantra for any entrepreneur is:

When you fail, fail fast.

Basically: pick yourself back up the very second you fall.

Success is all about the ways you reassess your failings and search for something else that works. Only consider quitting if:

  1. You feel you’ve tried everything doable
  2. People you care for are negatively affected.

 

Business Lesson #15 – Own Your Business (Don’t Let It Own You)

Bear in mind that you’re a person first and an entrepreneur second.

You must establish barriers between the business and non-business aspects of your life. Otherwise, you’ll end up living the same narrative as those workaholics in Click and The Devil Wears Prada.

A long-term goal you should strive towards is the total systematization of your business so it can eventually run on its own. That means you won’t have to sacrifice so much personal time to constantly check up on things.

Family and personal relationships should always take priority – don’t let your home life suffer for the sake of profit. After all – what’s the use in money if you haven’t got a great family to enjoy it with?

 

Business Lesson #16 – Work Smart And Know Your Limits

Know this: the average entrepreneur works effectively for 35 hours a week (not 40).

The problem with more hours is you tend to expand the time it takes to complete a certain task rather than use your time effectively.

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Fewer hours will help you cut all the “fat” off your agenda each day. You’ll focus on what really matters to gain the highest possible returns.

It’s important to note that as you work, you become more and more tired. Somewhere within your day you’ll reach peak performance and from that moment your productivity levels will begin to drop. Managing your time correctly and knowing when enough is enough is a key skill when considering how to succeed in business.

 

Business Lesson #17 – Never Stop Learning

Whether you’re fresh out of college or have 20 years’ managerial experience in the bag, learning never ends.

No matter how much you think you know, you can always read or listen to new ideas and perspectives. That’s how to stay on top your game as an entrepreneur.

As the years pass, more and more new information becomes available on business theory and market economics. If you don’t keep up to date on the latest research, chances are your business will fall behind the times and fade into obscurity.

In order to avoid this – make sure you’re always improving your knowledge bank. Listen to podcasts, read books and watch documentaries on your own business interests. Doing so will not only keep you up to date but will also provide you with a more productive pastime than that games console in your lounge ever could.

 

Business Lesson #18 – Take Good Care Of Your Body

I once attended a coaching program in Chicago along with 50 other business owners, most of whom were more successful than I was.

We were all asked what we’d like to improve about ourselves in the next three years.

Surprisingly, 75% of those great men mentioned their health when considering how to succeed in business and improve their lives in general.

If even successful people who presumably have lots of money might have trouble taking care of themselves, what about new entrepreneurs?

It’s a medical fact that your body needs the right nutrition, plus enough rest and exercise in order for you to stay sharp and productive. What’s the use in a great brain if you haven’t provided your body with the correct nutrition to fuel it at 100% capacity?

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My advice would be to invest in healthy foods that will help to fuel your body and mind for a day of good hustling. Don’t let what you eat get in the way of your potential successes. Sure, burgers are pretty nice – but profits are much, much nicer.

 

18 Lessons I Learned As An Entrepreneur

There we have it, gents – 18 important lessons I’m passing on to current and future entrepreneurs who need clarity on succeeding in business.

At the end of the day, every man will learn from his own achievements and errors along his path to business success. Despite my experience – there will be items missing from this list. Not because I forgot to put them in, but simply because I’m still learning myself.

After all these years, I can still confirm that running a business isn’t easy. However, with the right preparation and the right people around you – success will eventually come knocking on the door.

Just be patient, stay consistent, and always have fun along the way!

Good luck, gentlemen.

Want to know more about how to succeed in business? Check out my 5 tips to create the perfect business card. 

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4 Steps To PURGE Your Wardrobe – How To Get Rid Of Clothing Clutter In Your Closet

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It’s Purge Night in your closet.

All bets are off.

All laws are suspended.

For twelve hours, only powerful clothes are safe.

Which outfits will you spare?

Which deserve to die?

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A quick look at Rotten Tomatoes will tell you that the jury’s out on whether the premise of the movie The Purge – a society kept under control by a yearly 12-hour period with no laws or emergency services – holds up to scrutiny.

But when it comes to your wardrobe, maintaining order via an annual period of merciless settling up actually makes a lot of sense.

Today, I’m going to show you how to lay your internalized “laws” and emotional hang-ups aside and embrace the purge.

Rule 1: The Purge Lasts a Scheduled, Set Length of Time

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Know when you need to purge. Sometimes it’s because a lot of your wardrobe has become worn out and you’ve been making do with it for too long. For many men, a transition to a new phase of life prompts the need for a clean-out.

If your clothes don’t reflect your age or where you are in your career, or you have a lot of things you never wear, it’s probably time.

Once you know it’s needed, mark it on your calendar. Block off a Saturday afternoon and resolve to only do that.

Set a strict time limit. That way, you’ll be less tempted to procrastinate AND less likely to dither unnecessarily about your decisions. The more time you allow yourself, the more you’ll overthink things.

Like the film’s, your purge should be annual. Marking aside time to check out your wardrobe in a deliberate way will save you time in the future – time shopping, time getting dressed, time panicking because you forgot that the shirt still hanging in your closet has a hole in it.

Subsequent purges won’t be as drastic as your first one. That’s okay. The point is, you’re keeping your wardrobe up to date, in good shape, and pared down to the essentials.

Rule 2: Authorized Weapons Only

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For your closet purge, your “weapons” are the questions and concepts you use to aid your decision-making. And heads up: the methods you might be thinking of – making three piles, looking only for what you literally never wear – are weak.

You want to separate the best of your wardrobe from what just doesn’t make the cut. You want a highly selective process. In your new, stylish wardrobe, every single piece should be a winner.

In his book Essentialism, Greg Mckeown presents a series of questions you might ask while cleaning out a closet, and better questions you could ask instead. He uses the analogy of de-cluttering our closet in the same way we de-clutter our lives.

But let’s focus on his closet strategy.

Don’t ask, “do I like this?” More than likely you do at least a little bit, or you wouldn’t have bought it in the first place.

Instead, ask: do I wear this often? Do I look GREAT in it? If I saw this on a store shelf today, would I buy it again at full price?

These are much more powerful questions. They’re derived from one of my men’s style equations: the style equation of value.

If it’s not a ‘hell yeah,’ then it’s a ‘no.’

Rule 3: All (Mental) Emergency Services Are Suspended

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That anxiety you feel when you think about getting rid of stuff is a mostly sunk-cost fallacy – the irrational belief that something you’re not using is worth holding onto because you’ve already spent money on it.

It may pay off elsewhere, but thrifty self-control won’t serve you here. Turn the “but I spent money on this!” sirens OFF for the duration of the purge.

Move fast and be brutal. Don’t let “someday” or “maybe” stop you from paring down your wardrobe. Maybe someday you’ll get back in shape, but in the meantime, it’s just taking up space (or worse, getting worn and making you look like a walking midlife crisis).

Besides, would you really want to celebrated a body transformation by wearing out-f-date clothes?

Clothes that are even slightly dated make you look cheap, and not in a cool thrift-shop hipster kind of way. Chances are, you can get along without them.

The last major category of items you’re going to get rid of are clothes fit only for the trash. Stained, worn out, and torn clothes, no matter how nice they used to be, aren’t fit to sell or donate. Toss them. They should not stay in your closet.

For more on this, check out my handy guide on when to throw away clothes.

Rule 4: No Killing of Outfits Level 10 Or Higher

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In The Purge, you’re not allowed to kill a high-ranking government official. In the Closet Purge, you’re not allowed to kill an outfit you could wear in public if you were one.

When your whole wardrobe’s potentially on the chopping block, what you really need to save are the high-quality, timeless pieces that you’ve invested in because they will never go out of style. If they fit really well (or could with a trip to the tailor) and they’re in great shape, e.g. no holes or stains, these pieces are keepers.

Also in your ‘keep’ pile should be clothes that are highly versatile and could become a component of several go-to looks. You know what you wear often and what goes with what, so if, for example, you need to turn twenty shirts into ten shirts, build your all-star team from the most frequent picks.

If you need some guidelines, check out my posts on creating an interchangeable wardrobe. The mindset of incorporating maximum versatility will help you build a minimalist wardrobe that works.

After Closet Clean Out

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Once you’ve completed your purge and you’re looking at what remains – vast, empty spaces between each item; gaping holes where the clothes that didn’t make the cut once hung – you’re going to want to buy tons of new clothes right away.

Unless you literally just trashed all your pants, don’t do that.

Instead, live with the clothes you have for a little while and work out what you still need to complete your wardrobe. Make a list of what you need or want so you can shop strategically. Don’t waste time and money just because the hoarding impulse kicks in.

Create a system for getting rid of unwanted clothes in the future. Keep a bag or laundry basket for unwanted clothes near your closet or chest of drawers.

When you buy a new item to replace something, discard the old one.

When something wears out, make sure you toss it out of sight so you’re not tempted to venture out in it.

You can donate or toss your no-longer-needed basket at your next annual purge.

If your closet hasn’t been cleaned out in ages, this probably sounds daunting, but it will be well worth it for the way it streamlines your mornings – and your laundry days.

Take it one step at a time, and you’ll be left with a wardrobe that contains only great options. Why settle for less?

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Professional TV Dancer Neil Jones announced as the face of Shakeup Cosmetics 

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TV star Neil Jones has joined male beauty brand Shakeup as their first ambassador and launches new Age Def-Eye Instant Lifting Eye Cream.

Shakeup co-founder Jake Xu says “We are delighted to welcome Neil as our very first face of the brand. He aligns perfectly with our style, vision, and brand values and of course our fans and we are thrilled to announce this new partnership”.

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In his role as ambassador, Neil will be motivating men to look and feel their best as well as working closely with Shakeup on new product development and upcoming campaigns.

Neil adds “I’m really excited to be teaming up with Shakeup. Daily demands and hectic schedules can take its toll on my skin but looking after it properly is crucial, especially in my line of work. I love the Shakeup products – they give great results with minimal effort and they’re great value. A winning combination!”

Neil’s favourite product is the NEW Age Def-Eye Instant Lifting Eye Cream, £28. Combining caffeine, squalane, shea butter, and two revolutionary trademarked ingredients – Inst’Tight and Ipeptide, it instantly tightens, refreshes, and revives tired looking eyes and minimises puffy eye bags and dark circles, fine lines, wrinkles, and crow’s feet.

Neil says, “With a new baby and busy rehearsals, it’s brilliant for helping me look like I’ve had a great night’s sleep!”

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Products are made in Britain, cruelty free, vegan friendly and PETA approved and available from shakeupcosmetics.com and Amazon.

About Shakeup:

Shakeup was founded in 2020 by twin brothers Jake Xu and Jake Carnell-Xu. As Chinese British (born in Beijing and grew up in Bath, UK) they have been inspired by the massive rise in men’s beauty in Asia and the K-pop market. With more men than ever branching out with their beauty routines, they created Shakeup to provide affordable, innovative, and solution-driven, skin care and cosmetic products and are

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13 Public Speaking Mistakes To Avoid In Your Presentation

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Imagine…

The sea of faces.

The expectant hush.

Butterflies in your stomach.

Sweaty palms.

This is the presentation of your life.

It’s going to make or break your career.

Your heart pounds as you listen to yourself drone on… watch their eyes glaze over…

And feel your career going down the drain.

Death by PowerPoint.

Today, we are going to throw you a lifeline. I have 13 public speaking mistakes for you to avoid to make sure you never fail another presentation in your life!

#1 Public Speaking Mistake: Not Knowing Your Audience

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You need to know who you’re speaking to–in general and as individuals–to avoid losing them to confusion or giving them irrelevant information.

Ask yourself two questions: why are they here, and what do they already know?

By understanding how much your audience knows about the topic, you can avoid filler words in presentations or examples they don’t understand, but also avoid talking down to them.

Knowing what they want to find out helps you stay relevant and hold their interest.

Stand on their side of the podium for a moment. What motivates them to be there? What could you tell them that would make them glad they came?

Research who you’ll be speaking to. Knowing the age group, professions, and other demographics of your audience will help you decide what points are most likely to click.

If your audience is from a different generation, company, or background, try to get a feel for their culture so you don’t say anything that will come off as rude.

You can also use this to tailor references and humor to their taste, but understand that that’s not a substitute for genuine respect. Trendy internet slang isn’t the key to reaching an audience of high school students–showing you respect their intelligence even as you speak from an older perspective is.

#2 Not Emotionally Connecting

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There’s a reason your audience didn’t just google the info you’re telling them: they want to hear it from a person. They came to hear your human perspective and to experience the connection you can offer them

The best presentations are ones that create a deep personal connection, and one thing we all share as human beings are feelings of fear or vulnerability. If you’re willing to open up about yours, it can help people feel a stronger connection with you.

My personal example: I will, in the course of talks, sometimes talk about suicide, which is an issue that’s touched me closely in my family and in my military service. Getting people the help they need to try and prevent suicide is something I’m involved with and something that means a lot to me.

I don’t bring it up to impress people or to try and make them feel like they need to get involved, but I will mention it to show people that hey — I am a guy who does care and think about serious stuff, beyond whatever the topic of the moment is.

“The best presentations are ones that create a deep personal connection, and one thing we all share as human beings are feelings of fear or vulnerability.”

And most people are like that! They have some things they care very deeply about, or have strong feelings about, or are committed to or involved with in a serious way. Hearing about mine reminds them of theirs, and then we have a connection as real human beings.

Let them know how you feel about what you’re telling them – they’ll internalize it. Feel free to mention relevant things that you care about as examples. It helps your audience feel like they know you.

#3 Winging It

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Under-preparing is a common mistake that can ruin a presentation with tons of potential. If you’re not prepared, you can’t relax. And if you don’t relax, you’re unlikely to engage at the level that the best public speakers do.

Have a plan B in case of technical difficulties, come up with alternate examples in case your original ones don’t seem to be landing and arrive early.

Check your equipment and everything you’ll need well before it’s time to start the speech. If you can, do a run-through on-venue–a full dress rehearsal, if you will.

If you’re prepared well in advance, you can use any extra time at the beginning to talk with individuals. It’ll help your audience feel more comfortable with you.

#4 Death By Powerpoint

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Visual aids can make your speech clearer and easier to follow, but not if they’re text-heavy, hard to read, or distracting.

Most people know you shouldn’t read text straight from your PowerPoint slides, but you should be keeping text basic overall. You want it to be easy for your audience to note down or remember. Set a target of no more than 10-15 words per slide.

To use PowerPoint effectively, make sure it looks polished and be careful of busy themes and long transitions. You want to keep people’s interest on what you’re saying, not distract from it.

#5 Not Practicing Enough

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The keys to a good presentation are confidence, flexibility, engaging your audience, and knowing your stuff.

How do you get there? Practice.

The better you know your material, the more relaxed you’ll be and the more confident you’ll come across.

Start practicing at least several days in advance.

You want everything committed to long-term memory. Until you can give your speech while driving, doing the dishes, or walking through an unfamiliar conference center, you shouldn’t tell yourself you’ve “practiced enough.”

On your later run-throughs, hone the details. Test out how you want the presentation to feel–what the arc of it will be, where it’s most high-energy.

Don’t just memorize the bullet points. Match them to your tone and gestures.

#6 Not Knowing What You’re Talking About

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Obviously, you want to give your audience accurate information. They’re there to learn. But doing your homework before a presentation is important for another reason: credibility.

The audience doesn’t have to know everything about the topic to catch an outdated fact or a statistical mix-up. And if they do, they’ll wonder about the accuracy of every single thing you’re saying.

Building credibility keeps people paying attention because they know what you’re saying is useful. They feel like they can trust you to answer their questions and give them the straight talk about the topic. It goes without saying, but you want to avoid being embarrassed during the Q & A too.

If you’re tripped up by a question or need to double check a fact, it’s worse to say something wrong than it is to excuse yourself and quickly check your notes. At the end of the day, honesty is more valuable than smoothly rattling off incorrect info.

#7 No Excitement

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Especially if you’re at a conference or in an office setting where people are going to meetings regularly, they’ve probably already seen a lot of people just standing there talking.

If you can give them a fresh experience, they’ll listen more closely to your points and you’ll make an impression.

When you practice, get comfortable moving around. Don’t hide behind the podium.

Choose your anecdotes carefully, and tell them like you’d tell a story to your friends. If they’re interesting in their own right, they’ll do a way better job of illustrating your points because your audience will remember them.

Make sure the relevancy is spot-on though, or they’ll remember the story and not the point.

#8 Going On Too Long

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People naturally pay attention in bursts of 15-20 minutes. Ask yourself if you really need to talk for longer. If you do, try to divide your speech into segments with a brief pause between each one.

Almost all presentations go on for longer in front of an audience. Practice until you can do it comfortably in less than the allotted time.

If you can save someone time then you instantly become a high value man in their eyes. Worst case scenario, you keep it brief and have more time for questions afterward.

Timing your statements keeps your message interesting longer. This is as true for public speaking as it is for stand-up comedy. Figure out how to make basic points as briefly as possible, then fill in the details where you have time.

#9 Not Engaging Your Audience

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Talk about things you know your audience is going to be interested in. If you can, talk about your topic in terms of their lives specifically.

As you speak, try to stick with mostly “you” statements. You should be constantly feeding the audience’s perception that this is directly relevant to them. A close second option is using “we” statements, creating the feeling that you and the audience are a team.

If you’re presenting to a small group, like a gathering around a conference table, you can alternate meeting each person’s eyes directly. For larger groups, move your gaze around the room.

Interact with your audience as much as you can. Ask them questions. Open the floor up to brainstorming. If they’re participating, they’ll be paying attention.

#10 Not Observing Other Speakers

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Never miss an opportunity to watch other public speakers in action.

Go to talks when you’re at conferences. Watch videos like mine online. Check the bulletin boards at your local college or library for public lectures (you can learn some really weird and cool stuff from those, too).

Exposing yourself to a wide range of speakers shows you both the good and the bad of public speaking.

I got to watch Ian Cleary of Razor Social speak recently, who’s an absolute master of the craft, and I was thinking to myself “man, I’ll never be as good as this guy.”

But at the same conference I saw enough presentations that made me think “okay, I’m at least this good” that I could feel positive about my skills, and aspire to get them closer to Ian’s level by learning from him!

#11 Not Moving Around

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Whatever room you’re in, own it!

Don’t hide behind the podium.

Move around and gesture when you talk. It’s much better to look too energetic than not energetic enough.

In a lot of public speaking settings (like business meetings and conferences), people have been doing the same sit-and-listen routine for a long time. You want to offer them something that looks and feels different to get them out of their mental rut.

In one presentation that I did with John Dumas of Entrepreneur on Fire, we only had 20 people or so and a fairly small space. When we got there, we moved the chairs into a big circle and had one “hot-seat” at the center that different people took at different points in the presentation.

The change in structure really helped break up the feeling of sitting and staring at screens while someone talks from up on stage. It gave people a sense that they were there getting one-on-one advice from some guys with big successes under their belt, which made the whole experience feel very valuable to them. We got great feedback on that one.

#12 Not Utilizing the Correct Body Language

Your body language adds credibility to your speech. Avoid crossing your arms (this is a defensive gesture which puts up a barrier between you and the audience) and try to avoid fiddling with your cuffs, wallet or buttons because this makes you look nervous.

Take time to watch how the professionals do it and remember to work the room.

That means not standing in one place like a statue – you should be animated to keep your audience’s attention.

Want to learn more about body language moves that can help you gain trust? Click here to check out the 3 Secret Body Language Moves That Help You Gain Instant Trust.

#13 Not Realizing Unconscious Bad Habits

You’ll spot some bad habits as you work on your body language – things like putting your hands in your pockets or touching your face while speaking.

But I’m willing to bet you also have some bad verbal habits. Watch out for ‘filler words’. Words like:

  • Uh
  • So
  • Well
  • You know
  • Like
  • I mean
  • Anyway
  • As I was saying

These weaken the impact of what you’re saying and make you come off as unsure, unprepared, and nervous.

How to break yourself of the habit? Try making a game of it. Create a ‘filler word jar’ and drop a quarter in there every time you use a filler word. Speaking without filler words will feel odd, but you can go a long way towards breaking this habit in just one day.

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By: Antonio Centeno
Title: 13 Public Speaking Mistakes To Avoid In Your Presentation
Sourced From: www.realmenrealstyle.com/public-speaking-tips/
Published Date: Fri, 16 Feb 2024 17:58:33 +0000

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