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If you want someone to remember your word – make eye contact.

A joint 2006 study between the University of Wolverhampton and the University of Stirling found that making eye contact even 30% of the time increases people’s ability to remember what you say.

In this article, we’re giving you 21 eye contact rules.

Rule #1 – Make Enough Eye Contact

If you live in the U.S. or Canada, follow the 50/70 rule.

Studies at Michigan State University found you should look someone in the eye 50% of the time while speaking to them, and 70% while listening.

Rule #2 – Don’t Make Too Much Eye Contact

If you go over the 50 or 70% you can come off as aggressive. I’ve even gotten flack for looking too much at the camera in my videos.

Rule #3 – Look For 3-5 Seconds

In North America, you should look at people for 3-5 seconds at a time if you want to look confident.

Less appears timider, more appears aggressive.

If you’re not sure how long 3 seconds is, try counting 1-Mississippi, 2-Mississippi, 3-Mississippi in your head.

Exception: If you’re making eye contact with a woman you don’t know, go for 1-2 seconds.

Rule #4 – Hold Eye Contact To Make People Tell You The Truth

Research out of Tufts University found that eye contact makes people more honest.

So if you’re buying a car or dealing with someone you think is shady, look them in the eyes.

Rule #5 – Movement + Eye Contact = Memorable

Two researchers working out of Radboud University and Rutgers University found that eye contact, coupled with a sudden movement (such as an out-of-nowhere hand motion or a turn of the head while you make eye contact) makes people both more memorable and more noticeable.

Rule #6 – Know How Much Eye Contact To Make With Authority

Study how to make eye contact with authority before you start a new job – or better yet before you go to a job interview.

Take into account the setting, the culture, and the background of your employers.

Bosses tend to make more eye contact with workers they see as high performers and avoid eye contact with workers they see as lower status (Journal of Nonverbal Behavior, 2010).

Male bosses are more likely to do this.

Rule #7 – Establish Eye Contact At The Start

man and friend

To make a confident first impression, before you even start using your voice, establish eye contact with everyone in the room.

As a newcomer, it’s YOUR job to break the ice. When you greet people, make eye contact and offer a handshake.

Rule #8 – Making Eye Contact In Different Cultures

The 50/70 rule and 3-5 seconds won’t work in every country:

In many Asian countries (China, India, Pakistan) avoiding eye contact with superiors is a sign of respect.

In Japan, eye contact is seen as rude and it’s more polite to look at the neck.

Some religious groups, such as Muslims, are careful about men and women making eye contact.

Do your homework.

Rule #9 – Keep It Fair

If you’re meeting a group of people, show respect by holding eye contact with each of them for about the same amount of time – even if you know some of them and not others.

Rule #10 – Don’t Assume She Likes You If She Looks At You

Not every woman who looks at you is into you.

Look at the environment – if you’re at work maybe she wants to ask you a question about your department.

If you’re at a wedding and she’s gazing into your eyes, that’s different.

Signs she may be into you:

  • If she looks away and then looks back for another peek
  • If she holds your gaze for a couple of seconds
  • And especially if she smiles while looking into your eyes

These are great signs – but you still need to talk to her to find out.

Rule #11 – Don’t Assume She Hates You If She Doesn’t Look At You

Women often avoid eye contact with men because they don’t want to be confused with making an advance.

She may be married, trying to be modest, or she may be used to men being overly aggressive when she does make eye contact.

Don’t force eye contact if she looks like she doesn’t want it.

Rule #12 – When You Meet A Woman’s Eyes – Smile


This is one of the most important eye contact rules. When you make eye contact with a woman you don’t know, give her a smile.

Eye contact AND smiling together are more attractive than eye contact OR smiling alone.

Show you’re a nice person. That’s all you’re looking to do; this is something I think more men could do.

I sometimes still fall into the trap of looking away because it feels awkward – but practice looking at people and smiling.

It’s OK to smile at men too!

Rule #13 – Don’t Stare At Breasts

It needs to be said – when you’re speaking to a woman, look her in the eyes.

Women can see when you’re talking to their breasts, and even if they like you – ESPECIALLY if they like you – they want to feel that you’re focused on their words.

There are ways that you can train yourself to stop looking elsewhere. Ask yourself her eye color – “Are my coworker Amy’s eyes green or hazel?”

This can also help you recall new names – and if you can actually remember a woman’s eye color you’re ahead of most guys.

Rule #14 – ‘Sticky Eyes’ Are Attractive

If you want to flirt, when you look away from her turn your head away first, but let your gaze linger a moment longer.

This movement says you find her so desirable it’s hard to tear your eyes away from her—but you respect her too much to gawk.

Use this technique when you’re talking to a woman and you have to go. Maintain that eye contact and give her a smile.

It’s very attractive to women.

Rule #15 – Know Where To Look


You may find it easier to look at just one of someone’s eyes instead of both, or at the area below the eyes.

For a business associate, imagine a line forming a triangle from their forehead to below their eyes. Keep your eyes in the middle of that triangle.

For someone you know personally, invert the triangle so the middle is in the bridge of their nose. Don’t spend too much time looking at the lower half of someone’s face unless you’re flirting.

We tend to blink more when we are under stress – so practice looking into people’s eyes without blinking too much.

When you’re sending a serious message, less blinking = more credibility.

What’s ‘too much?’ Anything over about 30 times a minute (once per two seconds).

Remember To Blink

Not blinking looks unnatural. I know – I have this issue. I’ve been told I look like a robot because I don’t blink enough!

What’s ‘not enough?’ Under 10 times a minute (once per six seconds). Remember to blink and show normal facial expressions and gestures when you’re talking. Otherwise, you’ll just come off as staring – and it’s rude to stare.

Rule #17 – Show You’re Listening When You’re Not Looking

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During the moments you’re not looking, show that you’re paying attention. Whether this means taking notes in a meeting, or smiling when someone is telling you something funny.

If you take out your phone to make notes, let them know what you’re doing – ‘mind if I make notes?’ Otherwise, it can look as if you’re texting.

Rule #18 – For Short Requests, Make More Eye Contact

A 2013 study at the University of British Columbia found that for short requests or simple communication, more eye contact was more persuasive.

So if you want to ask something simple or small, go ahead and break the 50/70 rule. Look the person in the eye and make your request.

Rule #19 – For Long Speeches, Make Less Eye Contact


If you’re giving a speech or presentation over 30 minutes long, you also want to break the 50/70 rule, by making less eye contact.

Looking people in the eyes more than about 60% of the time will seem aggressive and be less persuasive. This is especially true when the audience doesn’t know you.

Rule #20 – Understand Children Find Eye Contact Hard

Don’t force too much eye contact with a child.

With your children or children you know well, explain the importance of eye contact and encourage them to look at people.

Rule #21 – ‘Smize’ – Smile With Your Eyes

Try it in front of the mirror to see the difference between a smile that doesn’t reach the eyes and one that does.

You can even ‘smize’ with your eyes alone. Done right, it’s a very masculine look that suggests you have a tough exterior but a warm heart.

Some ways you can practice proper eye contact

  • Talk to yourself in the mirror.
  • Record yourself speaking or presenting. Watch the footage, count how many times you looked at the camera directly, and measure how long you looked on average.
  • Ask close friends or family to observe you while doing a mock presentation. Get their comments regarding eye contact (request for total honesty).

With this practice, you’ll get better at sensing whenever you’re doing it right or wrong.

Over time, making eye contact for 3-5 seconds and not looking outside of people’s faces will become the norm for you.

You’ll ultimately gain so much confidence. And trust me – confidence works wonders for making eye contact, and for socializing in general.

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How to wear your watch correctly



As much as you won’t like hearing this, you’re probably wearing your watch wrong.

It’s not your fault; you may have never been taught how to wear a watch properly. After all, there is more than one way to wear a watch.

But how do you know which way is the right way?

Don’t worry, gents; as always, I’ve got you covered. I’m here with the best way to wear your favorite timepiece properly and look as stylish as ever.

In today’s article, I’ll be covering:

  1. Origins Of The Wrist Watch
  2. What Wrist Do You Wear A Watch On?
  3. Should You Wear Your Watch Facing Inward Or Outward?
  4. The Stylish Way To Wear A Watch

#1 Origins Of The Wrist Watch

old watches

When it comes to wearing a watch correctly, it’s important to note why the wristwatch came about in the first place.

Dating back to the 1800s, the first watches modified to be worn on the wrist were primarily worn by women as accessories. One of the earliest was created by Patek Philippe as a fashion accessory.

At the start of the 20th century, watchmakers became intrigued about using a wrist-worn timepiece for men in the military. They believed it would help them tell time quickly while on the battlefield.

Watchmakers started modifying pocket watches to fit on a bracelet worn on the wrist. Men would not wear the first iteration of the modern wristwatch until well into the 20th century.

Then developed as a ‘trench watch’ for military use, the earliest wrist watches offered something the pocket watch didn’t have – convenience.

After the wristwatch became less of a fashion accessory and more of a functional tool, watchmakers would spend the next century modifying them into the modern wristwatches we enjoy today.

#2 What Wrist Do You Wear A Watch On?

man wears watch

The age-old question: what wrist to wear a watch on? The answer – it depends.

The reason it depends is that since the creation of the wristwatch, men have mostly worn their watch on their non-dominant wrist. And since most people are right-handed, you would wear your watch on your left wrist.

But this isn’t always the correct answer. You may want to wear your watch on the right wrist if you are left-handed. But you may also want to wear it on your dominant hand.

So how do you know for sure?

The most significant benefit of wearing your watch on your non-dominant hand is that you can quickly put the watch on and navigate the dial more efficiently than with your non-dominant hand.

Wearing your watch on your non-dominant hand is less likely to damage the watch as you tend to do more with your dominant hand. If you were to wear it on your dominant hand, you’re more likely to scratch or ding the watch than on your non-dominant hand.

So the rule of thumb here is to wear your watch on your non-dominant hand for the best way to navigate and protect your watch.

#3 Should You Wear Your Watch Facing Inward Or Outward?

watch facing inside

The next question is, why would a man wear his watch facing inward on his wrist instead of outward?

This trend is seen primarily in individuals who need to check their watch frequently and in the most efficient way possible. Among the many reasons you should wear a watch, one of the most common is to support you in your profession.

You will see men in the military do this, as it’s easier and prevents sun glare better than when it’s on the outside of the wrist. It also offers faster convenience to other tools on the watch in addition to the time.

Another reason you may want to wear your watch facing inward is that it can help protect your watch from scratches and dings. Again, this is just a preference.

But you’re a stylish guy looking for the best way to wear his watch. What should you do?

The answer here is to wear it facing outward, as that is the most common way to wear a wristwatch. It shows off your timepiece that you love while also still being functional.

Unless you’re in a profession where you need to check your watch quickly while managing other tasks, the best way is to have your watch facing outward. After all, you probably didn’t spend money on that beautiful timepiece to hide its character.

#4 The Stylish Way To Wear A Watch

stylish watch

Now it’s time to find out exactly how to wear a watch in the most stylish way a guy can.

Assuming you’ve selected the right size watch for your wrist, the first thing you want to do is figure out if you’ll be wearing your watch on your right or left wrist.

As mentioned above, traditionally, the watch is worn on your non-dominant wrist. So if you’re right-handed, this means wearing your watch on your left wrist. For left-handed guys, this means your right wrist.

After you figure that out, it’s quite easy. The first thing you want to do is locate your wrist bone.

You want to wear your watch face up just above your wrist bone. If done correctly, your watch should slightly peek out from under the cuffs of your shirt when wearing long sleeves.

Next, you want to tighten the strap so it’s loose enough to be comfortable. You don’t want it so loose it can spin freely around your wrist. You also don’t want it too tight, or it will feel uncomfortable, especially when you bend your wrist.

After doing this correctly, you’ll be wearing a watch in the most stylish way possible.

There you have it, gents.

Now you no longer have to worry about wearing your watch incorrectly.

There is more than one way to wear a watch, so find what’s most comfortable for you personally, and rock your favorite timepiece accordingly.

If you want to take your watch knowledge to the next level, check out this article I wrote about the difference between quartz and mechanical watches.

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Fall Capsule Wardrobe Preparation (Buy Now and Get $$$)



We’ve all been there – fall comes around, and you open your closet only to find you have nothing but polos and shorts.

So what’s a stylish guy to do? Pay a premium to build an entire fall wardrobe last minute? Sure, if you’re loaded. But not every guy is that lucky!

Don’t worry; as ever, I’ve got you covered. In today’s article, I’ll show you how to get the best bang for your buck when building your fall capsule wardrobe.

We’ll be covering:

  1. What Are The Advantages Of A Capsule Wardrobe?
  2. How Do You Build A Fall Capsule Wardrobe?
  3. Where Can You Find Deals On Fall Clothing?
  4. What Are The Best Fall Capsule Wardrobe Essentials?

#1 What Are The Advantages Of A Capsule Wardrobe?

man in closet

One of the most common headaches guys run into in their closet is having too many clothing options to choose from but not enough of the right options.

While more options aren’t bad, they can be overwhelming, especially when you rarely wear most items. This is where building a capsule wardrobe comes into play.

A capsule wardrobe is a limited selection of clothing items that complement each other. This means you can buy a smaller selection of items and create a larger number of outfits.

This is crucial to understand because most guys don’t have an unlimited budget for buying clothes. A capsule wardrobe allows you to purchase and use items frequently with little redundancy.

But where do you start in building your fall capsule wardrobe?

#2 How Do You Build A Fall Capsule Wardrobe?

fall clothing items

After you have put together the perfect capsule wardrobe, you can start to add a few fall-specific items. This is done by adding a few staple pieces that complement what you already have.

For most, fall offers mild temperatures mixed with slightly warmer temperatures.

This means that layering will be of the utmost importance because you may leave the house needing a jacket, but it might be warm enough by midday to sport only the t-shirt underneath.

Start with the basics when building your fall capsule wardrobe and add pieces accordingly.

Keep It Simple

man wearing coat

Fall is primetime for layering, so you only need a few outer layers and should focus more on the innermost layers.

You want to make sure that interchangeability is at the top of your list when it comes to your wardrobe. Everything should complement each other for ease of use.

With that said, having a few staples and adding additional items as you change seasons is essential.

For this reason, ensure you have the following items in your fall capsule wardrobe:

  • A dark three-piece suit 
  • A light-colored tweed blazer
  • A leather bomber or biker jacket
  • An overcoat (dark or light)
  • A formal button-up shirt (white)
  • 2 casual button-up shirts (flannel or chambray, you choose)
  • 2 sweaters (1 shawl, 1 crew neck)
  • 2 t-shirts (1 white, 1 black,)
  • 2 pairs of Jeans (1 dark, 1 light)
  • 2 pairs of slacks/chinos (1 dark, 1 light)
  • 2 belts (1 black, 1 brown)
  • 1 pair of black dress shoes
  • 1 pair of brown oxfords (leather or suede, you decide)
  • 1 pair of sneakers (plain white or brown)
  • 1 pair of military boots (black or brown)

When it comes to accessories like watches, scarves, or gloves, you can use what you have as most men won’t need all of them, so I won’t count them in.

#3 Where Can You Find Deals On Fall Clothing?

clothing on sale

As it is the middle of summer, fall will be approaching quickly.

Now is a great time to snag up some of last year’s sale items at department stores as they usually have sales on previous season items. By now, most men aren’t thinking about what to wear in the fall.

While you still might be able to find good deals on last year’s fall items, it’s usually the most optimal time to purchase these items after the season has ended. This is when retailers try hard to clear space and make room for the next season’s clothing.

When they do this, it is a great time to get excellent deals on items that have just gone out of season.

Another great option to buy men’s clothing is online at your favorite retailers, as they will often have sales and discounts on items they have in their online inventory but are not yet in prime season.

The most expensive items in your fall capsule wardrobe are the ones you want to focus on, as you can often save a significant amount of money out of season for them.

These big ticket items include:

  • Your dark three-piece suit and blazer
  • Overcoats and jackets
  • Dress shoes and sneakers
  • Boots

These items will be some of the most expensive items and can be found discounted out of season. Put these at the forefront of your fall capsule wardrobe search.

#4 What Are The Best Fall Capsule Wardrobe Essentials?

man shopping for clothes

You want to adhere to a few staples when building your fall capsule wardrobe.

Since fall weather can vary, layering will be essential. These few items are crucial as mainstays that can be layered with other items within your wardrobe.

For example, if you experience a rather chilly day in fall and need to wear a suit, an overcoat is essential as that outermost layer because you can simply remove it when you no longer need it.

When it comes to the concept of layering within your fall capsule wardrobe, you want to make sure you nail these following items.


man wearing overcoat

Having a good overcoat to complement your fall capsule wardrobe is crucial.

The overcoat acts as the outermost layer and will be removed whenever you go indoors. This makes for a great option as you can wear it with anything as it offers excellent versatility.

When searching for the perfect overcoat, it’s essential to know your size as they usually come in sizes of suit jackets, not regular sizing. After you’ve nailed the size, focus on color.

Dark-colored overcoats tend to be the most versatile. However, a light camel color can work as well. Stay away from patterns with overcoats as the goal is to be as versatile as possible.

Leather Jackets

leather jackets

A good leather jacket goes a long way. You can choose a leather biker jacket or a leather bomber; it’s your call.

Biker jackets can be slightly harder to pull off as most of the time, they will have a larger and more aggressive collar, but they still look great.

A leather bomber jacket is an excellent option because it looks great on all body types and often has more options than biker jackets.

For color, opt for black or dark brown, as that gives you the most versatility with other items in your fall capsule wardrobe.


man wearing sweater

Sweaters are to fall, what t-shirts are for summer. This means they are a critical piece as they are season specific and offer great versatility when it comes to layering.

So how do you find the perfect sweater?

You want options, so have a couple of different collar choices to give yourself the most bang for your buck.

Having a shawl neck sweater and a crew neck sweater ensures you have all your bases covered.

Make sure you choose neutral tones such as greys, creams, and tans for color. This ensures maximum versatility with other items within your wardrobe and gives you the most options.

That’s it, gents.

To learn more about how versatile this concept of capsule wardrobes can be, check out how I turned 16 pieces of clothing into 256 outfits.

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The Best Zara Fragrances



We all know of Zara and I’m pretty sure the majority of us own at least one piece from them, but I’m not here to talk about their reasonably priced clothing, I’m here for their fragrance.

Not quite a hidden gem but I don’t feel that they vast range and high quality fragrance that they create is given enough air time, I’m about to change that. The fragrance game is massive at the moment, everyone from the big fashion houses all the way to footballers have a scent on the market and they all carry a hefty price tag, with some of the bigger hitters asking in excess of

£100 for 50ml.

Zara clearly understand the need for a great fragrance but also appreciate not everything has to be overly expensive. I’ve been lucky enough to sample my fair share over the years and wanted to share with you what I feel are some of their strongest.

Tobacco Collective 100ml – £16.99

This is one of my absolute favourites, it works perfectly as an everyday scent. The initial smell is strong and masculine but with undertones of vanilla bourbon help to soften it slightly.

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For Him 100ml – £22.99

My current daily spray, its warm, modern and intense. It just so happens to be the perfect blend of three of my favourite scents, bergamot, cardamom and sandalwood. It’s strong yet light, never over powering and leaves a wonderful trail.

Florence 100ml – £16.24

Summer calls for a fresh fragrance and I cannot recommend this highly enough, its light, fresh and citrus scent is perfectly for those warmer days. Notes of black pepper, strawberry and guaiac wood allow this scent to sit gently on the skin with offending the noses of those around you.

Written by Tom Loughran

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