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If you Google attracting women

It’s full of:

  • what to wear…
  • muscles to build…
  • pick up lines to use…

While physical attraction is important for first impressions…

a HUGE key component is missing.

So what does it take?

Attracting women is a little more complex…

attractive smiling couple

You have to stimulate their mind.

Make them FEEL a certain way.

Combine a strong first impression physically & emotionally…

and you might have a chance to win her over.

FYI – all of this will backfire if you’re approaching them for the sole purpose of seduction.

The motive behind your behavior is just as important as the actual behavior.

The most attractive way to make them feel something is with confidence, authenticity, and integrity.

This article is going to cover some subtle signals that will help you (physically and emotionally) become more attractive.

Attractive Man Trait 1. Wear Red

man wearing red attracts women

Red is a powerful color. It’s been used as a status symbol for men since Roman times. It’s also more sexually appealing than other colors.

In fact, this is a cross-cultural kind of thing. A study was made in 2010 involving women from different countries – Germany, England, China and the US. They were asked to rate the attractiveness of different men’s faces that were photographed in black and white.

Two variables were digitally altered per picture: (1) the color of the background and (2) the color of the t-shirt.

The results?

The ladies found a guy more attractive whenever there was a red background/shirt than whenever there was neither.

So believe it or not, red does increase your marketability. Wear it the right way (just one piece – even just a pocket square) and you can amp up your style and your game.

Attractive Man Trait 2. Look More Mature

mature looking man

If you’re worried about looking older – here’s a reality check. Psychologists have studied about young adult women who are financially independent and as it turns out… old is gold.

Those ladies fall prey to what’s known as the “George Clooney Effect.” Fhionna Moore of the University of Dundee explains this further, saying self-sufficient women are drawn to maturity. Remember our biology – women have menopause while men are fertile for much longer.

They like a man who looks “experienced” with life. They think he’ll make a good provider – but it’s not that they’re being needy. They see him as someone who’s not going to fool around. A guy who’s wise and ready for commitment.

If you learn the ways of an older gentleman, you’ll realize that “old” here doesn’t mean dull or boring – but classy.

Attractive Man Trait 3. Don’t Buy Generics Or Counterfeits

guy choosing counterfeit watches to buy

When you buy a counterfeit it sends the message that you settle for second best.

It also shows that you care more about people’s opinion of you than your perception of yourself.

Think about it. If you’re wearing a fake Gucci suit and it’s noticeable – it sends the message that you care more about people thinking you own the real thing. You’re worried more about your status than about being your true authentic self.

At the end of the day, it comes down to one thing: Confidence in yourself. A man who is authentic won’t try and portray someone he isn’t. He’ll buy what he can afford, and own it.

If he isn’t where he wants to be in life he’ll own that too. At the end of the day, he’ll be more attractive because he isn’t fake.

Attractive Man Trait 4. Dress Like A Dandy

man dressed like a dandy attracts women

The art of dandyism dates back to the 18th century. Famous men like George Bryan “Beau” Brummell were known to live and breathe it – taking as much as 5 hours a day just to dress perfectly!

You won’t spend that much time on your style… but you’ll want to apply the principles. These days it’s less about over-the-top dressing and more about expressing yourself.

A modern dandy’s clothes are tailored amazingly well. He minimizes ornaments. The color, texture and all the small details are carefully picked out. He’s quite artistic – and that’s why he outshines other well-dressed men.

Who are the dandy guys of today? You’ll find many on Instagram and some of them going viral on newsfeeds. Take inspiration from them – there’s a reason they have loads of followers.

Attractive Man Trait 5. Own Your Oddness

man with odd eye look

As handsome as you are, you should also embrace your odd features. Our society considers them “imperfections” but really… who doesn’t have them? What IS perfect in this world?

So learn to see what’s odd about you and harness it in a way that works. Maybe your hair is a little weird – why not grow it out and explore a different style? Or if you need eyeglasses – why not try fun glasses? Or if you’re naturally thin – how about skinny clothes?

Whatever your imperfection is – gap between teeth, big eyebrows etc. – own it. People are used to seeing things so close to perfect that nothing seems genuine anymore. Odd makes you look more human. That’s your appeal.

Attractive Man Trait 6. Eat “Tanning” Food

tanned food

If you’re the type who likes to spray tan or spend hours under the sun… here’s a better alternative. Switch up your diet to food that’s rich in carotenoids. You know what they say – you are what you eat.

Carotenoids are compounds which give your skin a natural glowing tan through regular intake. Some great sources include:

  • Butternut Squash
  • Cantaloupe Melon
  • Carrots
  • Dark Leafy Greens
  • Dried Apricots
  • Sweet Potato
  • Sweet Red Peppers

A study that came out in The Quarterly Journal of Experimental Psychology showed that 86% of people found a carotenoid tan more attractive than a pale face.

It also compared faces that had both carotenoid tan and sun tan versions – and more preferred the carotenoid type. So high-carotenoid foods aren’t just good for your health. They’re great for your skin.

Attractive Man Trait 7. Forearms and Vascularity

Men's Rolled Sleeve attract women

This one might surprise you.

One thing that signals leanness is a pair of toned arms that show off some veins. Those lines indicate less fat and more muscle. If yours are visible – you’re physically on the right track.

Most guys at the gym want to get buff – but it’s not what gets the ladies. The real determining factor is leanness.

Being lean is about a low percentage of body fat – ideally at 12%. It’s most attractive to women according to a study in the Proceedings of the Royal Society of Biological Sciences.

The women in the study rated young men of all body sizes and the results were clear. Low body fat – not masculine features – was linked to high levels of attractiveness, testosterone, and strong immune systems. Lean was more impressive than bulky.

Attractive Man Trait 8. Sleep Well

Sleep Well

Your goal is to get eight hours of shut-eye a day. How can your body recharge and repair itself if you stay awake? And don’t think lack of sleep is just a brain issue – it’s also unattractive.

A study was performed at the Karolinska Institutet in Sweden where people judged human faces based on two different photos. The subject was either sleep-deprived or well-rested (but the observers didn’t know this).

The findings were consistent – sleep-deprived faces appeared less attractive AND less healthy. Red eyes were also seen as major turn-offs. So you better rest up. There’s a reason we call it beauty sleep.

Attractive Man Trait 9. Be Mindful

Outside of the physical components – attracting women comes down to sparking an emotional response.

For men – it’s simple. If we’re attracted to a woman, we pursue a physical relationship. If we feel respected we pursue an emotional relationship.

For women – attraction more than just physical. Their mind needs to be attracted to your mind (AKA you have to win them over emotionally).

A study was made in Australia on factors that predict initial romantic attraction. University students participated in a speed-dating session where ultimately, the women were more attracted to men with a greater mindful disposition. Looks weren’t as big of a factor.

So what exactly does this mean? It’s all about your ability to pay attention, be insightful and engage with women well. It’s how you take the wheel and steer the conversation so that it never gets boring or awkward. That’s how the ladies will enjoy your company.

Attractive Man Trait 10. Make Fun Of Yourself

Making women laugh is an important thing. But did you know that self-deprecating humor actually works? Evidently yes – that’s the appeal of Hugh Grant.

Researchers discuss this kind of humor in the article “Dissing Oneself: The Sexual Attractiveness of Self-Deprecating Humor.” They say it makes a man more desirable – as it exposes his flaws and spins them in a positive way. Remember how we should own our imperfections? That’s the correlation.

Having a good sense of humor about yourself is how you make women see you differently. They’ll laugh, feel more comfortable and less pressured to look or act a certain way.

And when they realize that – eureka! You’re the guy who can make a relationship fun and less “prim and proper.” You’re somebody they can be themselves around. That makes you a great catch.

Attractive Man Trait 11. The Little Things

man wearing backwards baseball cap

I thought wearing a baseball cap backward was sloppy and best left to frat bros. It seems I might be in the minority though. While I was doing my research, I saw women say they really like a man who does this. Maybe women like the relaxed, devil-may-care look a backward baseball cap can give you.

How about rolling up your sleeves? You might think this is practical when you’re doing dirty work or chores but this is apparently a very popular look women love to see on their man.

It’s not hard to see why women mentioned this. You’re showing some skin, they can see the veins in your arms while you do your thing, it’s a good look.

“BACKWARDS BALL CAPS! Any time a man slides that bill to the back, he instantly gets hotter!” – jedicajohnsonjblove

Attractive Man Trait 12. Putting On A Tie…Then Undoing It

high quality ties are attractive, demonstrated by a man adjusting his smart outfit

However you look at it, women seem to love seeing a man wearing a tie. The humble necktie can instantly pull together a smart-casual outfit and make a suit look sexier.

Going black tie? Wearing a bowtie undone might seem like a cliché to you and me, but it still seems to work wonders on women. You still look smart but it makes you more approachable and relaxed, you’re in your element.

“An untied bow tie. That floors me.” – ElineK

Attractive Man Trait 13. Wearing Boots

chelsea boots is a stylish accessory for men

After doing this research, I recommend each one of you pick up a pair of boots. GQ asked 200 women what the most attractive shoes men could wear for a first date would be and 77% said boots.

This makes sense to me. You’re associating yourself with the tough-as-nails workers and cowboys of legend who created the modern world over the last two centuries. You might not be a tough man hard at work every day but it couldn’t hurt to look like you’re ready to fell a tree at a moment’s notice.

Attractive Man Trait 14. Leveraging The Power Of Accessories

attractive guys wear accessories

Gentlemen, if you’re not wearing a belt and watch you need to get on it because women will notice. They instantly improve any outfit. Get into the habit of putting a belt and watch on first thing in the morning as part of your daily routine. Before you know it, you won’t even realize you’re doing it.

If you wear contact lenses, try a pair of glasses. The women have spoken and I’m 100% with them because the science backs it up. The human eye loves symmetry, and that’s what glasses give you. They make you objectively better-looking.

“Ooh, when a man wears glasses. Yas mama!” – sarahas1516

Simply put, ladies love a well-put-together man.

Attractive Man Trait 15. Controlling Your Car

man taking care of his car is attractive to ladies

Another quality you might need to be a woman to fully understand! Driving your car with one hand or just two fingers on the steering wheel was mentioned as something women love to see their men do. Also, driving with one elbow resting on your open window. Handling a car with ease gives you a relaxed presence women want to be around.

Lastly, parallel parking will impress your guy friends but is also a great trick you should be showing off to the women in your life.

Ultimately, what these come down to is showing you are in control of the vehicle. Whoever is with you in the car can feel safe.

“When my husband smoothly pulls our truck into a tight spot…Oooooooooooh.”

– daschap

Attractive Man Trait 16. Proving You’re Thinking Of Her

woman and man in love

Here’s another thing you can do without even leaving the car: reverse with your hand on her headrest. You’re reminding the woman you have in the passenger seat she is on your mind.

Even small gestures like putting your hand on the small of your wife’s back or giving her the ‘soft eyes’ across a table in a restaurant will mean the world. It just lets her know you’re thinking of her.

As one woman put it, “I’ll catch my boyfriend looking at me with that softer look, and I’ll say, teasingly, ‘You’re staring!’ and he’ll say, ‘Gazing!’ and look away.”

Attractive Man Trait 17. Showing Off Your Brainpower

intelligent man working

Next up, women love a guy who’s smart but without coming off as arrogant.

How do you show you’re intelligent without bragging about it? It doesn’t have to be complicated, even holding or reading a book in public increases your attractiveness.

Did you know there’s an entire Instagram account dedicated to good-looking guys reading books on the subway? Just saying…

Attractive Man Trait 18. Caring For Yourself And Others

guy cooking healthy food

“I LOVE watching my boyfriend cook,” one woman wrote in a Reddit thread. Women love it when a guy shows he can sustain himself and others. A home-cooked meal made from scratch, served in an organized and clean house, is indisputable evidence. After all, how many women want to date a man who’s actually looking for a free cook/cleaner?

Of course, the guys who get guaranteed full credit are the men who are good with kids. It should be no surprise a woman’s maternal instincts makes her more interested in someone who can take care of children, even if the relationship is just beginning.

Attractive Man Trait 19. Wearing A Well-Fitted Shirt

man in well fitted shirt attracts ladies

Think about it, guys love when a woman wears a form-fitting dress. This is the equivalent for men.

If you have an athletic, V-shaped build, a tight t-shirt is perfect. Black or white is best, women say. Those of you who are larger or with a pear-shaped body, opt for a casual button-down shirt. Go here for a complete guide to men’s body shapes and what fits best.

“A good muscular packed chest that looks amazing under a shirt.” – luvcrgirl

Attractive Man Trait 20. Running Your Fingers Through Your Hair

running a hand through your hair is an attractive quality

In one thread I saw, a user wrote about when men “run their fingers through their hair. Especially when they’re doing it subconsciously, like while thinking”.

I think this shows the value in seeing what women themselves really think. Sometimes it really can be the things you or I wouldn’t think twice about that drive a woman crazy. You probably do this at least once a day without even realizing it.

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This research was really interesting for me. Some of these only take a second to actually do but it’s the thought and attention to detail that count, which clearly comes out in the findings here.

Looking relaxed and approachable while still being strong and in control seems to be what unites all of these. That said, some of these (I’m looking at you, backward baseball cap!) were really unexpected and I had a lot of fun putting together this list and video.

Attractive Man Trait 21. Stay In Touch

woman texting on the phone

In today’s fast-paced society, showing someone you’re thinking of them with a Facebook message or text is a great way to increase your attractiveness. Relationship coaching expert Corey Lane writes that texting helps facilitate and underscore the mystery of romance for women.

Follow these simple guidelines and you will have a great chance of increasing your attractiveness with texting:

  • Keep it short – long messages can be overwhelming.
  • Think before you message – letters on a screen can be misinterpreted without body language, tone of voice etc so take your time and be clear, use correct spelling.
  • Use emojis – there are a great way to show your emotions and add some fun to what is otherwise plain letters on a screen.
  • Timing is important – find a balance between seeming anxious and coming across as a jerk who is not finding time for someone who should feel important.

Attractive Man Trait 21. Shave Your Head

man with shaved head

Do you have a bald spot or thinning hair? This is for you. A 2012 study in ‘Social Psychological and Personality Science’ had people rate photos of men with hair and with digitally shaved heads.

Participants rated the bald men as being more dominant, confident, masculine, taller, you name it. In fact, this effect still showed up when the experimenters used no photos, just verbal descriptions.

Attractive Man Trait Bonus: Smell Nice

man applies cologne to smell nice and attract women

Maybe fragrance isn’t a big deal to you. In fact, a lot of men don’t bother wearing it. But remember that smell is our strongest sense. It connects to our memory which triggers some sort of emotion – whether it’s good or bad.

Try taking some time to learn about fragrance and the different types available. Understand the basics and soon enough, you’ll find a product that gives you the perfect scent. It’ll help you become the most attractive guy around.

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3 Main Rules To Match Colors In Men’s Clothing



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Most men have no clue when it comes to mixing and matching colors.

If you err on the side of caution and avoid bringing any color into your wardrobe, you’ll look dull. Or, if you get it wrong and add too much color – or the wrong colors – you’ll look like a clown.

This article will help you understand how to match colors in men’s clothing.

You will learn how to:

  1. Focus On Neutral Colors
  2. Use Small Pops Of Brighter Colors
  3. Don’t Overthink Your Skin Tone

What Does Understanding (And Using) Color Do?

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  • Avoids blatant mistakes
  • Guides people’s eyes
  • It makes people subconsciously “feel” things (red enlivens, brown = trust, dark navy or gray = power)
  • It makes shopping MUCH more straightforward when you know what works best for you

But how does that translate into an actual outfit?

It’s not enough to know that red and green are complementary colors that go well together.

Even though the colors are good in combination, the wrong shades or the wrong amounts of each color will make you look like a Christmas decoration.

Menswear has to find a good balance between the dominant colors of the suits and shirts and the accent colors of things like neckties, pocket squares, and jewelry.

Combining colors tastefully is one of the hallmarks of the genuinely well-dressed man.
Although people have written dissertations on color-coordinating your wardrobe, the basics are pretty simple. All you have to remember are these 3 quick rules for combining colors in men’s clothing (courtesy of my friend Barron).

Trust me; it’s a lot easier than you might think.

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For this article, I collaborated with Barron Cuadro from Effortless Gent, a men’s style blog that guides you towards building a lean wardrobe.

Do you ever look in your closet and think, “I have all this clothing, yet there’s nothing I want to wear”? If so, you’re in luck! Barron has helped many men like you take advantage of a flexible and interchangeable set of clothes for daily use. He makes it an effortless task regardless of your age, body type, or budget.

Whether you’re starting your wardrobe from scratch or just bringing in a few classic pieces to fill in the gaps, I highly recommend browsing Effortless Gent. You might also want to visit the EG online store for some stylish items that will upgrade your wardrobe even further.

Now for Barron’s 3 essential rules for how to match colors in men’s clothing.

How To Match Colors In Men’s Clothing Rule #1: Focus On Neutral Colors

man wearing pocket square

Think of all the possible clothing color combinations like a pizza. You’ve got the base made up of bread and cheese and then an assortment of toppings that cater to different tastes.

Which would you say is more important: the base or the toppings? No-brainer! What kind of pizza has no crust? Similarly, a stylish outfit needs a good base of neutral colors like these:

  • Black
  • White
  • Gray
  • Navy, Light & Sky Blue
  • Brown & Khaki
  • Olive Green

These are the colors that go with most others. They set up the foundation for your outfits, making your job of finding matching clothes in your closet much more effortless.

That’s why they should constitute the majority of your wardrobe in terms of color percentages. With the right proportion of neutrals and non-neutrals, you can focus on the following rule (and have fun with it).

How To Match Colors Rule #2: Use Small Pops Of Brighter Colors

Use Small Pops Of Brighter Colors

This rule is where you do get to do a bit of experimentation. Just remember what happens to a pizza if you overload it with multiple veggies or meat types that don’t go well together. The same principle applies when it comes to color in your wardrobe.

The key, as always, is moderation. Stick with only small touches of 1-2 brighter colors to prevent them from clashing with or overpowering the rest of your outfit.

A yellow or pink pocket square, for example, will pair well with a charcoal sports jacket and all other neutrals you have on (white or light blue dress shirt, dark blue jeans, black belt, etc.). It will easily pop out with that combination. The same goes for a red necktie or gold buttons on a neutral-colored jacket.

Shoes are slightly trickier. While black is the only option in some cases, e.g., formal dress, shades of brown complement most of the neutrals above far better. So what’s your best bet here? In a nutshell, brown is the answer. For a more thorough explanation, check out this article on matching dress shoes with neutral-colored suits.

But what if you’re planning instead to wear a bright suit color for a friend’s wedding or another special event? A bit of trial-and-error is in order. Do a bit of research on your best options. Ask the groom’s opinion. Or the bride’s. And remember – there’s always Pinterest and Instagram to help you out!

How To Match Colors Rule #3 Don’t Overthink Your Skin Tone

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When dressing up, men often wonder: “Does this color look good with my skin tone?” Ever asked yourself this? Don’t worry about this too much. It’s more a secondary issue and not a huge limiting factor in what colors you can wear.

Shouldn’t skin color matter here? Well, yes, to a certain extent. But it should only play a part in about 10% of your decision-making regarding your color choices for clothing, and only after you’ve considered the two rules mentioned above.

It does help to know the type and amount of contrast between your skin tone and hair color. But that info should only require minor adjustments to your style. Don’t let your skin completely overhaul whatever you’ve taken time to put together. Stick to the neutrals and pops of color mentioned above, and chances are you’ll look good regardless of your complexion.

Matching colors is essentially a personal skill. There are no official rights or wrongs. The rules listed in this post – and all other rules about color – are not strict. As much as it helps to follow them (especially if you’re beginning to upgrade your style), there are times when you have to follow your gut simply.

With some practice, you’ll eventually be able to tell whether your outfit works with a single glance in the mirror.

When it comes to understanding how to match colors in men’s clothing, remember this: If you like what you see and the outfit suits the occasion, go ahead with it! Forget about how much it defies conventions. Be confident – and it’ll show. And confidence always looks good.

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Men’s Dress Code Guide



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How do you build a wardrobe?

Have you walked into a store and been overwhelmed at the options that are available?

Or maybe you look in your closet and you want to know if you have everything you need? How can you tell if your wardrobe is good?

In the spirit of maximizing time, let’s quickly go over a few looks you should know.

Specifically, there are 6 looks that every man should be able to master. You should shop with these looks in mind or if you do wardrobe assessment, with the goal of being able to create these dress codes with your existing clothes.

Let’s discuss the looks below!

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1. Semiformal / Business Attire

Suit Jacket Style Details Men Should Know

Professional attire is the look that gentlemen wear in very professional environments. It’s the uniform of lawyers, bankers, professors, Wall Street traders, and other business environments where decorum and professionalism are woven into the culture and fabric of the organization.

As such, the first step to mastering this look is to know your environment. Most businesses are explicit in saying that the dress code is professional attire so there is no second-guessing.

When a gentleman is dressed in professional attire, he’s communicating that he is about taking care of some serious business. His outfit says that his focus is sharp, that he’s intellectually capable, and he’s intent about the work that needs to be accomplished. There is a high level of respect that comes with this look.

Semi-Formal dress code
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  • Suit: Navy is considered the power color but gray and black are also strong business suits
  • White shirt: Plain white shirt is always a great option but you can spice it up with textured shirts or inconspicuous designs like window pane stripes or gingham print
  • Neckties: Blue, gray, black are standard business colors for ties. Don’t feel limited as there are varying shades of blue and grey and designs such as polka dots, stripes, and paisley are great ways to add more style.
  • Pocket Square: White, straight fold handkerchiefs adds a crisp and classic element to the overall look. Colored pocket squares can work depending on the environment.
  • Oxford shoes: Shoes should be the same color as your belt; brown or black. Again, shades of brown vary so there is still a lot of variety available.
  • Socks: Trouser socks that that matches the pant leg of the suit. It’s the safest bet to stay with solid socks.

2. Business Casual

casually dressed man

If you are unsure how to dress for a job in a creative industry or wondering what to wear as a teacher then this may well be what you’re looking for.

Business casual is exactly what is implied in the name. It’s a casual look made for the professional environment. Just because this look is more comfortable, it’s still supposed to illustrate a high level of professionalism. A traditional business casual look is no suit jacket. It has now evolved to “no suit and no tie required.”

Business casual has been expanded to trousers and a nice button up or even slacks and a polo style shirt. Workplace environment is everything when it comes to professional attire so make sure that your version of business casual is in line with the culture of the office.

Business-Casual dress code


  • Moccasins – Wear with or without socks if the work culture supports it.
  • Loafers
  • Oxford shoes
  • Double Monk Straps
  • Colored buttoned down shirts are acceptable
  • Suits with no tie can be spiced up with a lapel pin and colorfully patterned pocket square.

The key to this look is no neckwear. The collar can be open or the top button can be buttoned up. Either way, there should not be a tie. Also the polo can be worn with the top button fastened as well. It’s personal preference.

If you’re not going to button up the top button, make sure you have magnetic collar stays in the collar of your shirt. This will keep the collar upright and keep the look sharp

3. Casual Attire


As a man of style, the days of the dad jeans and your favorite tee shirt is no longer allowed. Also, sporty doesn’t mean a jersey and gym shorts -although they definitely have their place. There is a way to be sporty and still be stylish. Think of it as weekend attire. It’s comfortable, fun, and flexible.

This look can be a pair of well-fitting raw denim jeans, a t-shirt, and some stylish sneakers. Another option would be a henley, khakis, and a pair of boots. It is the undefined look when you don’t really know what you are doing for the day but you want to be comfortably sharp.

Casual attire for men


  • Chinos: Casual pants that can be dressed up with blazers
  • Polo shirts: These shirts were originally for athletes and are a stylishly comfortable option that can be paired with jeans, chinos, or shorts
  • Shorts: Jean shorts or chino shorts are acceptable.
  • Casual deck sneakers: These are sneakers that are not for competing. They are usually made of canvas material with a rubber sole.
  • Casual t-shirts: Solid colored or patterned t-shirts that can be dressed up with a blazer. They are versatile and comfortable. Do not confuse a casual t-shirt with a screened tee. An example of screened t-shirt is your favorite childhood marvel comic t-shirt.

Formal wear can be broken into three (3) different categories: Black Tie, Creative Black Tie, and White Tie. Most guys have no idea that there are three formal aesthetics, let alone the difference between them.

4. Ultra Casual

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Admittedly, this type of look is the simplest to pull off. It’s for style and comfort. The Ultra casual look is a spring and summer go-to look as it’s for warm weather and functionality. That being said, there is still a way to stylishly pull it off.

Ultra-Casual dress code


  • T-shirt: The type of t-shirt is totally depending on your preference. Whether it’s a crew neck or v-neck is not as important as the fit and quality of the shirt. Make sure that both are stellar
  • Shorts: Shorts should be funtional and worn above the knee. When shorts are worn below the knee it makes you look shorter (regardless of your height) and disproportionate.
  • Shoe: Sneakers or moccasin/loafer. Wear either shoe with no socks or “no show” socks if your feet sweat. Socks with these kind of shoes are an absolute no-no.
  • Accessories: Watches and bracelets are great additions to this look. They will stand out because of the outfit’s simplicity. Both classic and sporty watches will work well and leave a strong, fashionable statement.

Gents, grooming will play a big part in this look as well. There is a lot of skin showing so make sure that you are well lotioned. Shorts and ashy legs are not a good look.

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5. Creative Black Tie

creative black tie dress code

This can be considered the least formal aesthetic in the formal wear category. It’s a new school twist on traditional formal wear. It’s seen most often at Hollywood events such as red carpets and award shows.

The creative black tie look has a playful element that intelligently substitutes bold colors on subtle pieces for a bit of pizzazz.

Being that formal wear is a uniform of sorts, the creative black tie fun way for your formal attire to stand out in a crowd. This look is popular amongst millennials who typically defy the traditional conventions of menswear

Creative-Black-Tie dress code

Recommendations: The looks almost identical to traditional black tie with colored accessories such as:

  • Vest
  • Cummerbund
  • Bow tie

6. Black Tie Dress Code

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Less formal than white tie, but more formal than creative black tie – it is reserved for social functions and evening events. It is less regulated than white tie dress so more latitude for variations is given for this aesthetic.


Black Tie Recommendations:

  • A jacket with ribbed silk facings on a shawl collar or peaked lapel
  • Trousers with a single silk or satin braid covering the outer seams
  • A black cummerbund or a low-cut waistcoat
  • A white dress shirt, French cuffs and cufflinks, and a turn-down or detachable wing collar
  • A black ribbed silk bow tie matching the lapel facings
  • Optional shirt studs and cufflinks
  • Black dress socks
  • Black shoes—highly polished or patent leather Oxfords, or patent leather court shoes

7. White Tie Dress Code

white tie dress code

White tie is the most formal style of dress and is usually reserved for high society events such as state dinners, formal balls and evening weddings. It is typically considered only appropriate after 6 p.m., but it has been extended to anytime after dark.

white-tie mens dress code

White Tie Recommendations

  • Black or midnight blue dress coat with silk facings, horizontally cut-away at the front
  • Trousers of matching fabric with one single wide stripe or two narrow stripes of satin or braid and are worn with suspenders
  • White plain stiff-fronted cotton shirt
  • White stiff wing collar, preferably detachable
  • White bow tie
  • White low-cut waistcoat matching the bow tie and shirt
  • Black silk socks or stockings
  • Black court shoes

In Summary


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Red Flags In Men That Turn Women Off



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Every man wants to be the perfect partner and avoid relationship red flags. But what many don’t realize is that being a good partner requires continuous effort, self-awareness, and the ability to read and act upon subtle cues.

Certain behaviors or ‘relationship red flags’ can easily turn women off, potentially sabotaging what could have been a lasting bond.

In this article, I’m going to dive deep into the essence of being a good partner by addressing those red flags.

Let’s get to it.

The Importance of Recognizing Relationship Red Flags

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Before we delve into the specific behaviors that turn women off, let’s understand why it’s essential to be vigilant about relationship red flags.

I often emphasize understanding the ‘why’ behind fashion and grooming tips for men. In the same way, understanding the ‘why’ behind relationship dynamics can lead to a fulfilling partnership.

Ignoring or neglecting these red flags can lead to the gradual erosion of trust, intimacy, and connection in a relationship.

Top Relationship Red Flags Turning Women Off

Here’s the deal, gents: if you expect your partner to work hard on themselves and realize their flaws, then it’s vital that you do the same.

Understanding the relationship red flags you should be avoiding is the first step you can take to make sure that you’re being the best partner you can be. Sort out any imperfections early, and chances are you’ll avoid bigger issues later down the line.

Poor Communication Skills

Poor communication skills

Just as a well-tailored suit speaks volumes about a man’s style, effective communication is the cornerstone of any successful relationship.

Women value men who can listen actively, show empathy, and articulate their feelings. If you’re the type who bottles up emotions or dismisses your partner’s feelings, you might be waving a big relationship red flag.

Inconsistency in Actions and Words

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A crucial aspect of being genuine is aligning your words with your actions. I often talk about the importance of authenticity in men’s style … similarly, in relationships, inconsistency can be a significant turn-off. If you promise something, ensure you deliver. Women value reliability and predictability in a partner.

Not Valuing Her Time and Boundaries

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Time is a precious commodity. Not valuing your partner’s time or overstepping boundaries can be seen as a major relationship red flag.

This could manifest as being frequently late, canceling plans last minute, or not respecting her personal space and boundaries.

Being Overly Jealous or Possessive

Shes Always Speaking To Her Ex Being Overly Jealous or Possessive

While a slight hint of jealousy might be natural, being overly possessive or controlling can be stifling for your partner. Trust is the foundation of any relationship, and showing unnecessary jealousy can signal a lack of trust.

How To Spot Relationship Red Flags In Yourself

Recognizing your own flaws can be a daunting task. However, self-awareness is the first step towards personal growth and relationship improvement.

Let’s draw a parallel with style again: before purchasing a new outfit, a stylish man must first recognize what doesn’t work in his current wardrobe. The same applies to behaviors in relationships.

Here’s how you can spot those relationship red flags in yourself:

Reflect on Past Relationships

Couple reflecting on relationships

Think about your past relationships and try to identify common patterns or complaints. Did more than one partner mention that you’re not a good listener? Or perhaps they felt you were distant?

These patterns can provide valuable insights into your behavior.

Seek Feedback

Man reading at desk

Sometimes, the most honest feedback comes from those around us. Trusted friends or family members can provide an external perspective on your relationship dynamics.

Don’t shy away from asking them about behaviors they might have noticed, and be open to their feedback.

Personal Therapy or Counseling


Professional counselors or therapists are trained to help individuals recognize patterns in their behavior that might be causing harm. If you’re committed to self-improvement, consider seeking guidance from a professional.

Keep a Relationship Journal

8 Reasons Every Man Needs A Journal

We all know the importance of documentation in refining style, whether it’s photographs or notes.

Similarly, maintaining a relationship journal where you document feelings, reactions, and events can help you identify problematic patterns over time.

Practice Mindfulness and Meditation

Mindfulness practices, like meditation, allow you to become more aware of your thoughts, feelings, and actions in the present moment.

This heightened self-awareness can help you spot when you’re exhibiting behaviors that might be relationship red flags.

Regularly Check-in With Your Partner

talking to woman

Open communication is vital. Schedule regular check-ins with your partner to discuss how things are going.

This provides a safe space for both of you to express any concerns or observations about each other’s behavior. It also offers an opportunity to nip any potential problems in the bud.

How to Be A Good Partner

Recognizing relationship red flags is only half the battle. The next step is understanding how to navigate these issues and be the best partner you can be.

Learn About And Practice ‘Active Listening’

I often mention the importance of details in a man’s ensemble. Similarly, in relationships, the details matter. Paying attention to the little things, truly hearing what she’s saying, and showing empathy can make a world of difference.

Be Authentic and Genuine

Remember the golden rule of style: authenticity trumps all. Be genuine in your affections, your promises, and your actions. Genuine behavior fosters trust and builds a solid foundation.

Practice Patience and Understanding

Every relationship has its ups and downs. In moments of disagreement, instead of getting defensive, approach the situation with patience and a desire to understand your partner’s perspective.

Educate Yourself on Emotional Intelligence

Emotional intelligence (EI) is the ability to recognize, understand, and manage our emotions while recognizing, understanding, and influencing the emotions of others. By investing in developing your EI, you’ll be better equipped to navigate the intricate dance of relationship dynamics.

Just as a man builds a wardrobe that reflects his style, essence, and personality, building a relationship free from red flags requires time, effort, and dedication. By being aware of the behaviors that turn women off and actively working to address them, you can cultivate a relationship that’s both rewarding and enduring.

It’s important to remember that nobody is perfect. What matters most is the willingness to recognize mistakes, learn from them, and make continuous efforts to be a better partner. In the end, just like in style, it’s the effort and authenticity that count the most.

Men’s Relationship Red Flags

Why is it important to be aware of relationship red flags?

Awareness of relationship red flags is crucial as it allows individuals to identify and address unhealthy behaviors early on, preventing potential harm and fostering a nurturing and respectful relationship environment.

How can poor communication be a relationship red flag?

Poor communication can lead to misunderstandings, unmet needs, and a lack of emotional connection, which can ultimately deteriorate the relationship’s foundation.

Can relationship red flags be rectified, and how?

Yes, relationship red flags can often be rectified through open communication, mutual understanding, compromise, and consistent effort in behavioral change.

Is inconsistency really a major turn-off in relationships?

Yes, inconsistency in words and actions can cause distrust and insecurity, making it a major turn-off as it destabilizes the foundation of reliability and predictability in a relationship.

How can one avoid being overly jealous or possessive?

Avoiding excessive jealousy or possessiveness involves building trust, maintaining open communication, fostering mutual respect, and working on one’s self-esteem and insecurities.

How does active listening contribute to being a good partner?

Active listening contributes to understanding your partner’s thoughts, feelings, and needs more accurately, fostering empathy, reducing misunderstandings, and strengthening emotional connections.

Why is it necessary to be genuine and authentic in relationships?

Authenticity is crucial as it builds trust and intimacy. Being genuine allows both partners to feel safe to be themselves, fostering a deeper and more meaningful connection.

How does reflecting on past relationships help in spotting red flags in oneself?

Reflecting on past relationships can reveal patterns and behaviors that may have contributed to relationship issues, providing insights that can guide personal growth and development in future relationships.

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