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Ever find yourself at a bar, standing alone and wishing you could approach that cute girl?

Or maybe you’re at a networking event and you really want to speak to a VIP, but you hesitate and eventually talk yourself out of it.

You think, what’s the point? It won’t go well. I’m not good enough.

Your biggest problem isn’t that you’re not good enough, it’s that you don’t know how to communicate with confidence.

In this article, I’m giving you 9 powerful ways to communicate with confidence and nail that first impression.

You’ll discover how to:

  1. Practice Visualization
  2. Conduct A Mental “Double Check”
  3. Make Small Talk
  4. Master Your Personal Presentation
  5. Make Eye Contact
  6. Build Good Habits
  7. Master These Confidence Hacks
  8. Start Working Out
  9. Nail That First Impression

Communicate With Confidence Tip #1 Practice Visualization

You may think this is cheesy, but top athletes and performers use visualization to win Olympic events and perform at peak levels.

Visualizing in vivid detail is a great way to build motivation towards doing something you may find intimidating because you activate the same sensory and motor parts of the brain involved with the action you’re visualizing.

Meaning that when you’re visualizing, you’re activating the parts of the brain as if you were ACTUALLY doing what you want to do.

So when you visualize communicating with confidence, your brain will trick you into ACTUALLY communicating with confidence.

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Tip #2 Conduct A “Mental Double Check”

When you feel the urge to approach someone, you may hear that inner-critic in your head that speaks up and tells you things about how you’re not good enough or how the interaction will go wrong.

To convey confidence, you’re going to have to control what is going on in your head. What goes on in your head is directly reflected in your verbal and nonverbal cues.

If you’re distracted or nervous, you will find yourself fidgeting or using many “uhs” and “ums” when speaking.

To stay mindful and present, I recommend a practice called the “mental double-check.” I try to do this hourly each day or every few minutes if I’m speaking with someone.

Mental double checks are simply taking a moment to observe what is going on in your mind.

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You’d be surprised about what you’ll realize when you start mentally double-checking yourself.

You may find that that inner voice is beating yourself up over little things or causing self-doubt. Remember, the stories and narratives you tell yourself become who you are. To build your confidence, you have to master your story by gaining control over that inner voice.

Learning how to communicate with confidence takes time, energy, and effort. But it’s essential to take the first step and begin identifying the types of stories you’re telling yourself.

So set reminders every few hours to start to observe what is happening in your mind. Are you presently focused on something important, or is your mind adrift?

You can also make it a practice to do mental double checks when you’re speaking to people. It’s a great way to make sure you stay engaged with the person you’re talking to, which is key when you’re learning how to communicate with confidence.

If you double-check yourself and realize that your mind has wandered, don’t beat yourself up about it. Just have a specific “Plan B” for this scenario.

The point is that to be “in control” of your mind, it’s essential to stay present. Staying present means being in the moment versus ruminating about the laundry you have to do when you get home; or all the negative self-talk about how the person you’re speaking with may be judging you.

Tip #3 Make Small Talk

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As a communication coach, I always hear people complain about how small talk sucks, but guess what, guys? It’s super important. Here’s why:

When people make first impressions, they mainly look for two main characteristics that account for 80-90% of their impressions: trustworthiness and confidence. But trustworthiness is the most critical piece.

Most men make the mistake that they’re so obsessed with showing power and confidence that they forget about the importance of trustworthiness.

Amy Cuddy, the Harvard social psychologist, recommends using small talk to build trust by genuinely trying to learn about someone else. It conveys trust and warmth.

Tip #4 Master Your Personal Presentation

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Research has shown that clothing is another crucial factor when it comes to making first impressions.
But the most important thing to be aware of is your audience. How are people going to dress?

You don’t want to be standing out like a sore thumb.

If you’re going to an event, ask if there’s a dress code. If it’s a party, you can also ask the host what type of attire the guests will be wearing if you’re unsure.

Here are some ways for you to make your appearance work for you:

  • Get a great haircut – Research from Yale shows that ‘bad hair days’ dramatically affect self-esteem and social insecurity.
  • Pull your socks up – Sloppy socks are for little boys, not men. Walking around with messy clothes tells your brain that you are not a man who strives for high ideals or achieves excellence.
  • Tuck in your shirt – Solid, put together, and you mean business. Tucking your shirt in sends the right messages.
  • Shine your shoes – Looking down and seeing that perfect mirror shine reminds you that you live by the highest standards.
  • Wet shave – Wet shaving with a metal razor gives you a closer, smoother shave, is better for your skin, and saves you about $300 a year over cartridge or electric razors. And it leaves you feeling powerful, stylish, and manly.
  • Take care of your nails – Taking care of your nails isn’t just for women. A gentleman’s nails should be neatly filed short, cleaned, and buffed.
  • Wear a watch – A good-looking timepiece makes you feel powerful and masculine. It can be a status symbol or a talking point.

Tip #5 Make Eye Contact

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Since your goal is to make an effective first impression that conveys trust, one of the best ways to show that is to use eye contact.

It helps show someone that you’re present and paying attention, thus making them feel important. Don’t you hate when you’re talking to someone, and they’re glancing around the room or checking their phone?

Studies show that adults make eye contact between 30-60% of the time, but people should be making eye contact 60-70% of the time to create a sense of emotional connection which is what you’re trying to build.
Start practicing your eye contact. If you don’t feel comfortable doing it, here are a few tips:

  • Lock both of your eyes on one eye of the other person if you feel uncomfortable having a direct gaze at both of their eyes.
  • If you’re still uncomfortable making direct eye contact, you can focus on one eyebrow of the other person; since it’s close enough to their eyes, they’ll assume you’re looking in their eyes even though you aren’t.
  • Make eye contact a habit. You can do this by practicing making eye contact for a few seconds with strangers. The point is to make it a habit, so it becomes automatic.

Tip #6 Build Good Habits

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Confidence for men is waning in this day and age. Expectations are high – whether in school, work, or in the bedroom. I get it; it can seem overwhelming at times.

But creating these 5 good habits will go a long way to boosting your ability to communicate with confidence:

  • Comparison – We’re surrounded by images of the so-called “perfect” man. He’s a man with a perfect gym body. We see success stories involving guys achieving great things in their 20s while we’re here still trying to figure out our own lives. Detox from social media.
  • Change the way you look at yourself – Develop a support system with those closest to you. We’re talking family, friends, and especially your significant other. Seek them out and ask them what makes you a fantastic guy.
  • Get organized with micro-actions – Build confidence and momentum by accomplishing as many small tasks as you can each day.
  • Be prepared – Savings account, first aid, self-defense – being prepared makes you feel like there’s nothing you can’t handle.
  • Be grateful – Express your gratitude every time it occurs to you – don’t hold back!

Tip #7 Try These Confidence Hacks

I’m sure you have heard the phrase, “Fake it ’til you make it.” There are a lot of ways that you can communicate with confidence even if you don’t feel it.

Showing confidence to others gives them the impression that you have confidence. They then show you the faith that your confidence gave them, raising your confidence FOR REAL.

But there are some other unconventional hacks you can use to communicate with confidence:

  • Duct tape your back – Fix your posture by using duct tape on your back. Stand up straight and run a long piece of duct tape down your back. Every time you slouch during the day, the tape will tug at your skin and remind you to keep your back vertical.
  • Shock your system – Cold shower therapy was used to treat anxiety and depression and improve blood circulation and skin tone in ancient Ayurvedic medicine. Exposure to the cold reduces the incidence of colds by strengthening their immune system.
  • Focus on your breathing – Focus on your breathing and take time out to concentrate on your inner state.
  • Change your walk – When you walk into a room, walk purposely towards a person or a spot in the room. Having a focus makes you appear more confident.
  • Get nude – Being confident in one’s skin has a massive effect on self-esteem. If you struggle with your body image, your self-esteem and confidence take a pretty big hit. Of all the bizarre confidence boosters, getting naked does a lot to boost your confidence levels!

Tip #8 Start Working Out

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A meta-analysis conducted in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology has a lot to say about men’s confidence. The experiment indicated that regular exercise improves body image and confidence as a result.

Exercise mitigates the effects of cortisol – a stress hormone – and releases endorphins, improving your overall happiness.

Hit the gym, gents.

Build a routine for yourself and stick to it.

Tip #9 Nail That First Impression

Think about it, have you ever met someone and immediately formed a strong opinion about them? Snap judgments happen extremely quickly – studies have shown that these opinions form in one-tenth of a second.

Of all the characteristics we use to judge people, researchers found that attractiveness and trustworthiness are the characteristics we judge first.

Once you decide whether or not you like someone, it’s pretty hard to change your mind.

Why? Humans are lazy, and after forming that opinion, there’s a ton of cognitive processing (aka brain power) involved in figuring out whether your snap judgments are accurate or not.

Instead, confirmation bias gets the best of you so that you seek information that confirms what you already think about someone and that strengthens the initial judgment. As you can see, it becomes a vicious cycle.

Your social skills and confidence are intertwined; by actively working on improving these aspects of your life, you’ll find yourself feeling naturally confident in social situations.

To improve your confidence, use the strategies we discussed like visualization, power poses and becoming aware of what is going on in your mind.

When it comes to approaching people, remember that first impressions matter. The goal of approaching people is to make them feel comfortable and meaningful. You can do this by using small talk, making sure you look presentable, and maintaining eye contact.

This is a guest post by communication coach Katrina Razavi, founder of 

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4 Steps To PURGE Your Wardrobe – How To Get Rid Of Clothing Clutter In Your Closet

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It’s Purge Night in your closet.

All bets are off.

All laws are suspended.

For twelve hours, only powerful clothes are safe.

Which outfits will you spare?

Which deserve to die?

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A quick look at Rotten Tomatoes will tell you that the jury’s out on whether the premise of the movie The Purge – a society kept under control by a yearly 12-hour period with no laws or emergency services – holds up to scrutiny.

But when it comes to your wardrobe, maintaining order via an annual period of merciless settling up actually makes a lot of sense.

Today, I’m going to show you how to lay your internalized “laws” and emotional hang-ups aside and embrace the purge.

Rule 1: The Purge Lasts a Scheduled, Set Length of Time

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Know when you need to purge. Sometimes it’s because a lot of your wardrobe has become worn out and you’ve been making do with it for too long. For many men, a transition to a new phase of life prompts the need for a clean-out.

If your clothes don’t reflect your age or where you are in your career, or you have a lot of things you never wear, it’s probably time.

Once you know it’s needed, mark it on your calendar. Block off a Saturday afternoon and resolve to only do that.

Set a strict time limit. That way, you’ll be less tempted to procrastinate AND less likely to dither unnecessarily about your decisions. The more time you allow yourself, the more you’ll overthink things.

Like the film’s, your purge should be annual. Marking aside time to check out your wardrobe in a deliberate way will save you time in the future – time shopping, time getting dressed, time panicking because you forgot that the shirt still hanging in your closet has a hole in it.

Subsequent purges won’t be as drastic as your first one. That’s okay. The point is, you’re keeping your wardrobe up to date, in good shape, and pared down to the essentials.

Rule 2: Authorized Weapons Only

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For your closet purge, your “weapons” are the questions and concepts you use to aid your decision-making. And heads up: the methods you might be thinking of – making three piles, looking only for what you literally never wear – are weak.

You want to separate the best of your wardrobe from what just doesn’t make the cut. You want a highly selective process. In your new, stylish wardrobe, every single piece should be a winner.

In his book Essentialism, Greg Mckeown presents a series of questions you might ask while cleaning out a closet, and better questions you could ask instead. He uses the analogy of de-cluttering our closet in the same way we de-clutter our lives.

But let’s focus on his closet strategy.

Don’t ask, “do I like this?” More than likely you do at least a little bit, or you wouldn’t have bought it in the first place.

Instead, ask: do I wear this often? Do I look GREAT in it? If I saw this on a store shelf today, would I buy it again at full price?

These are much more powerful questions. They’re derived from one of my men’s style equations: the style equation of value.

If it’s not a ‘hell yeah,’ then it’s a ‘no.’

Rule 3: All (Mental) Emergency Services Are Suspended

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That anxiety you feel when you think about getting rid of stuff is a mostly sunk-cost fallacy – the irrational belief that something you’re not using is worth holding onto because you’ve already spent money on it.

It may pay off elsewhere, but thrifty self-control won’t serve you here. Turn the “but I spent money on this!” sirens OFF for the duration of the purge.

Move fast and be brutal. Don’t let “someday” or “maybe” stop you from paring down your wardrobe. Maybe someday you’ll get back in shape, but in the meantime, it’s just taking up space (or worse, getting worn and making you look like a walking midlife crisis).

Besides, would you really want to celebrated a body transformation by wearing out-f-date clothes?

Clothes that are even slightly dated make you look cheap, and not in a cool thrift-shop hipster kind of way. Chances are, you can get along without them.

The last major category of items you’re going to get rid of are clothes fit only for the trash. Stained, worn out, and torn clothes, no matter how nice they used to be, aren’t fit to sell or donate. Toss them. They should not stay in your closet.

For more on this, check out my handy guide on when to throw away clothes.

Rule 4: No Killing of Outfits Level 10 Or Higher

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In The Purge, you’re not allowed to kill a high-ranking government official. In the Closet Purge, you’re not allowed to kill an outfit you could wear in public if you were one.

When your whole wardrobe’s potentially on the chopping block, what you really need to save are the high-quality, timeless pieces that you’ve invested in because they will never go out of style. If they fit really well (or could with a trip to the tailor) and they’re in great shape, e.g. no holes or stains, these pieces are keepers.

Also in your ‘keep’ pile should be clothes that are highly versatile and could become a component of several go-to looks. You know what you wear often and what goes with what, so if, for example, you need to turn twenty shirts into ten shirts, build your all-star team from the most frequent picks.

If you need some guidelines, check out my posts on creating an interchangeable wardrobe. The mindset of incorporating maximum versatility will help you build a minimalist wardrobe that works.

After Closet Clean Out

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Once you’ve completed your purge and you’re looking at what remains – vast, empty spaces between each item; gaping holes where the clothes that didn’t make the cut once hung – you’re going to want to buy tons of new clothes right away.

Unless you literally just trashed all your pants, don’t do that.

Instead, live with the clothes you have for a little while and work out what you still need to complete your wardrobe. Make a list of what you need or want so you can shop strategically. Don’t waste time and money just because the hoarding impulse kicks in.

Create a system for getting rid of unwanted clothes in the future. Keep a bag or laundry basket for unwanted clothes near your closet or chest of drawers.

When you buy a new item to replace something, discard the old one.

When something wears out, make sure you toss it out of sight so you’re not tempted to venture out in it.

You can donate or toss your no-longer-needed basket at your next annual purge.

If your closet hasn’t been cleaned out in ages, this probably sounds daunting, but it will be well worth it for the way it streamlines your mornings – and your laundry days.

Take it one step at a time, and you’ll be left with a wardrobe that contains only great options. Why settle for less?

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Professional TV Dancer Neil Jones announced as the face of Shakeup Cosmetics 

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TV star Neil Jones has joined male beauty brand Shakeup as their first ambassador and launches new Age Def-Eye Instant Lifting Eye Cream.

Shakeup co-founder Jake Xu says “We are delighted to welcome Neil as our very first face of the brand. He aligns perfectly with our style, vision, and brand values and of course our fans and we are thrilled to announce this new partnership”.

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In his role as ambassador, Neil will be motivating men to look and feel their best as well as working closely with Shakeup on new product development and upcoming campaigns.

Neil adds “I’m really excited to be teaming up with Shakeup. Daily demands and hectic schedules can take its toll on my skin but looking after it properly is crucial, especially in my line of work. I love the Shakeup products – they give great results with minimal effort and they’re great value. A winning combination!”

Neil’s favourite product is the NEW Age Def-Eye Instant Lifting Eye Cream, £28. Combining caffeine, squalane, shea butter, and two revolutionary trademarked ingredients – Inst’Tight and Ipeptide, it instantly tightens, refreshes, and revives tired looking eyes and minimises puffy eye bags and dark circles, fine lines, wrinkles, and crow’s feet.

Neil says, “With a new baby and busy rehearsals, it’s brilliant for helping me look like I’ve had a great night’s sleep!”

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Products are made in Britain, cruelty free, vegan friendly and PETA approved and available from and Amazon.

About Shakeup:

Shakeup was founded in 2020 by twin brothers Jake Xu and Jake Carnell-Xu. As Chinese British (born in Beijing and grew up in Bath, UK) they have been inspired by the massive rise in men’s beauty in Asia and the K-pop market. With more men than ever branching out with their beauty routines, they created Shakeup to provide affordable, innovative, and solution-driven, skin care and cosmetic products and are

on a mission to normalise men wearing make-up.

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13 Public Speaking Mistakes To Avoid In Your Presentation

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The sea of faces.

The expectant hush.

Butterflies in your stomach.

Sweaty palms.

This is the presentation of your life.

It’s going to make or break your career.

Your heart pounds as you listen to yourself drone on… watch their eyes glaze over…

And feel your career going down the drain.

Death by PowerPoint.

Today, we are going to throw you a lifeline. I have 13 public speaking mistakes for you to avoid to make sure you never fail another presentation in your life!

#1 Public Speaking Mistake: Not Knowing Your Audience

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You need to know who you’re speaking to–in general and as individuals–to avoid losing them to confusion or giving them irrelevant information.

Ask yourself two questions: why are they here, and what do they already know?

By understanding how much your audience knows about the topic, you can avoid filler words in presentations or examples they don’t understand, but also avoid talking down to them.

Knowing what they want to find out helps you stay relevant and hold their interest.

Stand on their side of the podium for a moment. What motivates them to be there? What could you tell them that would make them glad they came?

Research who you’ll be speaking to. Knowing the age group, professions, and other demographics of your audience will help you decide what points are most likely to click.

If your audience is from a different generation, company, or background, try to get a feel for their culture so you don’t say anything that will come off as rude.

You can also use this to tailor references and humor to their taste, but understand that that’s not a substitute for genuine respect. Trendy internet slang isn’t the key to reaching an audience of high school students–showing you respect their intelligence even as you speak from an older perspective is.

#2 Not Emotionally Connecting

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There’s a reason your audience didn’t just google the info you’re telling them: they want to hear it from a person. They came to hear your human perspective and to experience the connection you can offer them

The best presentations are ones that create a deep personal connection, and one thing we all share as human beings are feelings of fear or vulnerability. If you’re willing to open up about yours, it can help people feel a stronger connection with you.

My personal example: I will, in the course of talks, sometimes talk about suicide, which is an issue that’s touched me closely in my family and in my military service. Getting people the help they need to try and prevent suicide is something I’m involved with and something that means a lot to me.

I don’t bring it up to impress people or to try and make them feel like they need to get involved, but I will mention it to show people that hey — I am a guy who does care and think about serious stuff, beyond whatever the topic of the moment is.

“The best presentations are ones that create a deep personal connection, and one thing we all share as human beings are feelings of fear or vulnerability.”

And most people are like that! They have some things they care very deeply about, or have strong feelings about, or are committed to or involved with in a serious way. Hearing about mine reminds them of theirs, and then we have a connection as real human beings.

Let them know how you feel about what you’re telling them – they’ll internalize it. Feel free to mention relevant things that you care about as examples. It helps your audience feel like they know you.

#3 Winging It

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Under-preparing is a common mistake that can ruin a presentation with tons of potential. If you’re not prepared, you can’t relax. And if you don’t relax, you’re unlikely to engage at the level that the best public speakers do.

Have a plan B in case of technical difficulties, come up with alternate examples in case your original ones don’t seem to be landing and arrive early.

Check your equipment and everything you’ll need well before it’s time to start the speech. If you can, do a run-through on-venue–a full dress rehearsal, if you will.

If you’re prepared well in advance, you can use any extra time at the beginning to talk with individuals. It’ll help your audience feel more comfortable with you.

#4 Death By Powerpoint

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Visual aids can make your speech clearer and easier to follow, but not if they’re text-heavy, hard to read, or distracting.

Most people know you shouldn’t read text straight from your PowerPoint slides, but you should be keeping text basic overall. You want it to be easy for your audience to note down or remember. Set a target of no more than 10-15 words per slide.

To use PowerPoint effectively, make sure it looks polished and be careful of busy themes and long transitions. You want to keep people’s interest on what you’re saying, not distract from it.

#5 Not Practicing Enough

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The keys to a good presentation are confidence, flexibility, engaging your audience, and knowing your stuff.

How do you get there? Practice.

The better you know your material, the more relaxed you’ll be and the more confident you’ll come across.

Start practicing at least several days in advance.

You want everything committed to long-term memory. Until you can give your speech while driving, doing the dishes, or walking through an unfamiliar conference center, you shouldn’t tell yourself you’ve “practiced enough.”

On your later run-throughs, hone the details. Test out how you want the presentation to feel–what the arc of it will be, where it’s most high-energy.

Don’t just memorize the bullet points. Match them to your tone and gestures.

#6 Not Knowing What You’re Talking About

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Obviously, you want to give your audience accurate information. They’re there to learn. But doing your homework before a presentation is important for another reason: credibility.

The audience doesn’t have to know everything about the topic to catch an outdated fact or a statistical mix-up. And if they do, they’ll wonder about the accuracy of every single thing you’re saying.

Building credibility keeps people paying attention because they know what you’re saying is useful. They feel like they can trust you to answer their questions and give them the straight talk about the topic. It goes without saying, but you want to avoid being embarrassed during the Q & A too.

If you’re tripped up by a question or need to double check a fact, it’s worse to say something wrong than it is to excuse yourself and quickly check your notes. At the end of the day, honesty is more valuable than smoothly rattling off incorrect info.

#7 No Excitement

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Especially if you’re at a conference or in an office setting where people are going to meetings regularly, they’ve probably already seen a lot of people just standing there talking.

If you can give them a fresh experience, they’ll listen more closely to your points and you’ll make an impression.

When you practice, get comfortable moving around. Don’t hide behind the podium.

Choose your anecdotes carefully, and tell them like you’d tell a story to your friends. If they’re interesting in their own right, they’ll do a way better job of illustrating your points because your audience will remember them.

Make sure the relevancy is spot-on though, or they’ll remember the story and not the point.

#8 Going On Too Long

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People naturally pay attention in bursts of 15-20 minutes. Ask yourself if you really need to talk for longer. If you do, try to divide your speech into segments with a brief pause between each one.

Almost all presentations go on for longer in front of an audience. Practice until you can do it comfortably in less than the allotted time.

If you can save someone time then you instantly become a high value man in their eyes. Worst case scenario, you keep it brief and have more time for questions afterward.

Timing your statements keeps your message interesting longer. This is as true for public speaking as it is for stand-up comedy. Figure out how to make basic points as briefly as possible, then fill in the details where you have time.

#9 Not Engaging Your Audience

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Talk about things you know your audience is going to be interested in. If you can, talk about your topic in terms of their lives specifically.

As you speak, try to stick with mostly “you” statements. You should be constantly feeding the audience’s perception that this is directly relevant to them. A close second option is using “we” statements, creating the feeling that you and the audience are a team.

If you’re presenting to a small group, like a gathering around a conference table, you can alternate meeting each person’s eyes directly. For larger groups, move your gaze around the room.

Interact with your audience as much as you can. Ask them questions. Open the floor up to brainstorming. If they’re participating, they’ll be paying attention.

#10 Not Observing Other Speakers

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Never miss an opportunity to watch other public speakers in action.

Go to talks when you’re at conferences. Watch videos like mine online. Check the bulletin boards at your local college or library for public lectures (you can learn some really weird and cool stuff from those, too).

Exposing yourself to a wide range of speakers shows you both the good and the bad of public speaking.

I got to watch Ian Cleary of Razor Social speak recently, who’s an absolute master of the craft, and I was thinking to myself “man, I’ll never be as good as this guy.”

But at the same conference I saw enough presentations that made me think “okay, I’m at least this good” that I could feel positive about my skills, and aspire to get them closer to Ian’s level by learning from him!

#11 Not Moving Around

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Whatever room you’re in, own it!

Don’t hide behind the podium.

Move around and gesture when you talk. It’s much better to look too energetic than not energetic enough.

In a lot of public speaking settings (like business meetings and conferences), people have been doing the same sit-and-listen routine for a long time. You want to offer them something that looks and feels different to get them out of their mental rut.

In one presentation that I did with John Dumas of Entrepreneur on Fire, we only had 20 people or so and a fairly small space. When we got there, we moved the chairs into a big circle and had one “hot-seat” at the center that different people took at different points in the presentation.

The change in structure really helped break up the feeling of sitting and staring at screens while someone talks from up on stage. It gave people a sense that they were there getting one-on-one advice from some guys with big successes under their belt, which made the whole experience feel very valuable to them. We got great feedback on that one.

#12 Not Utilizing the Correct Body Language

Your body language adds credibility to your speech. Avoid crossing your arms (this is a defensive gesture which puts up a barrier between you and the audience) and try to avoid fiddling with your cuffs, wallet or buttons because this makes you look nervous.

Take time to watch how the professionals do it and remember to work the room.

That means not standing in one place like a statue – you should be animated to keep your audience’s attention.

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#13 Not Realizing Unconscious Bad Habits

You’ll spot some bad habits as you work on your body language – things like putting your hands in your pockets or touching your face while speaking.

But I’m willing to bet you also have some bad verbal habits. Watch out for ‘filler words’. Words like:

  • Uh
  • So
  • Well
  • You know
  • Like
  • I mean
  • Anyway
  • As I was saying

These weaken the impact of what you’re saying and make you come off as unsure, unprepared, and nervous.

How to break yourself of the habit? Try making a game of it. Create a ‘filler word jar’ and drop a quarter in there every time you use a filler word. Speaking without filler words will feel odd, but you can go a long way towards breaking this habit in just one day.

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