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When was the last time you cut your nails? Do you glance at your phone when you’re having dinner with a date? Are you sending her ten texts in ten hours?

These are well-known habits that are turn offs for women. You need to up your game.

In this article, we’re about to break out 15 of the worst habits men have and how to fix them.

Bad Habit #1 Lying About The Small Stuff

I wanted to start with this one for a reason. Gents, deceit is intolerable in a relationship.

Lying about leaving now when you’re running five minutes late might seem like no big deal. It can quickly snowball, though.

That five minutes can quickly become an hour. Suddenly you find yourself lying about getting a fantastic result on the test you took last week.

Now living a life without any lies would be impossible. Nobody can be completely honest. But, if you weave a web of unnecessary lies that only benefit you, don’t expect a woman to stick around once she finds out.

No woman should have to suffer a liar. If you can’t keep your story straight, that’s on you, my friend.

Bad Habit #2 Playing Mind Games With Women

Manipulation is, without a doubt, an abusive behavior whether men or women display it. But we’re talking about turn-offs for women here.

Guys, listen up. Do you play the victim whenever you don’t get your way to pull sympathy from her? Do you make veiled threats about the stability of your relationship to get what you want? If so, you’re manipulating her.

Men who play mind games with women don’t deserve them. Not only is it deplorable by principle, but using her affection for you as a weapon against her is doubly heinous. Shoot straight and true, gents. That’s when you deserve a lady.

Bad Habit #3 Only Caring About Yourself

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This is a big one – I’ve seen this come up a lot when women explained why they left their men. It was especially common among divorced women!

That means that this one’s a doozy. You must look out for your partner’s interests just as well as she looks out for yours. The door swings both ways in that regard.

Selfish men don’t last long in relationships.

Are her gifts to you consistently superior to the flimsy book you get her every birthday or anniversary? How long has it been since you’ve thought about getting her some flowers?

These are little things that go a long way!

Bad Habit #4 You Come Across As Arrogant

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When it comes to turns offs for women – little is worse than arrogance.

I get it. You’ve accomplished a lot, whether it’s graduating high school or college. Now you are in the working world with all the responsibilities that come with it.

You have every reason to be confident. There’s a fine line between confidence and arrogance though…

Confidence is valuing yourself enough to put your best foot forward. You introduce yourself to strangers and pursue your ambitions.

To be arrogant is to overvalue yourself. You are never wrong and nobody else is worth listening to.

Don’t you just hate that one guy that’s always talking big but doing nothing? He’s always going on about his new car, his house, or even his clothes?

You may have to deal with him at work, but his girlfriend has to see that smug grin every day. Yuck!

This is a turn-off for women, and I guarantee your friends don’t appreciate it either.

Modesty is a strength, gentlemen. Arrogance only conveys weakness.

Bad Habit #5 You Lack Ambition

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Time and again, I’ve seen ladies being attracted to men of vision and ambition. There’s a reason for this!

Women enjoy having a man who’s going places or is at least trying to get there. You don’t need to be bent on world domination but have some goals and strive to meet them.

Even women with enough power for themselves find this mindset to be nigh-irresistible.

Ambition is everything. Not simply to better your own station, but to enhance the respect your lady has for you.

Bad Habit #6 Your Manners Need Improvement

Manners maketh man.

Those words of wisdom were spoken by Harry Hart in Kingsmen, right before he beat the heck out of a group of hooligans.

I’ve seldom heard a phrase sum up so much in so few words, and it certainly matters when it comes to relationships.

Women do not want to feel as those they’re dating a savage, guys. For starters, try making complete sentences without needing a curse word. Don’t go around getting drunk if you know you’re unbearable when you’ve had too many in you. Please don’t dominate the conversation when it’s supposed to be a back-and-forth.

Just be civil – have the best manners you can, it’s not that hard. Look yourself in the mirror and ask, “Am I the type of guy Harry Hart would beat up?”

Speaking of Harry Hart, click here to discover how to dress like a Kingsman.

Bad Habit #7 You Cling To Her Like Superglue

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When it comes to turn-offs for women, being overly dependent is almost like signing the death sentence of your relationship.

Independence is attractive, gentlemen. It’s essential to have your own life apart from her – to have your own friendships, hobbies, and pursuits just like she does.

Spending time together is important, but so is quality time with yourself. Otherwise, she’s not dating a man, she’s dating a parasite.

Bad Habit #8 You Bore People To Death

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If you lack passion, drive, or can’t hold a conversation right, then you might not even get past the first date.

Keep her interested, especially on a first date. Discuss topics you are both passionate about!

Luckily for you, I’ve put out tons of content explaining precisely how to keep a woman engaged when you’re talking. Believe it or not, the key oftentimes is to ask her questions about herself and let her go on. The more people talk about themselves, the more they’ll like YOU.

Bad Habit #9 You’re Wilfully Ignorant

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Willful ignorance is intentionally ignoring facts that contradict your personal beliefs.

It is not cool to lack knowledge, though.

Being willfully ignorant toward other people and cultures is highly unattractive.

We live in a modern age where awareness and general tolerance are the names of the game. More and more women are rightfully finding ignorant men to be appalling.

Of course, you can and should be intolerant of bad things.

I’m talking about racism, sexism, religious intolerance, and homophobia.

ALL of these are the relics of a bygone era. They have no place in the modern gent’s heart and none in the relationship sphere either.

Bad Habit #10 You Eat Like A Pig

Not knowing how to have good table manners can completely ruin a romantic dinner.

Beware – the men who are guilty of these bad habits aren’t aware they do them… so the next time you’re eating, take a moment to think.

And if you find yourself doing any of the following… stop doing them. Forever.

Bad Table Habits

  • Chewing with your mouth open.
  • Eating fast. Eating your food is not a race. Take your time, avoid indigestion and enjoy the food and your company.
  • Talking with your mouth full. Studies show that 100% of women dislike having food spat at them.
  • Waving your cutlery around. If you need to illustrate a point, place your knife and fork down before doing so.

Bad Habit #11 You’re A Scrooge

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There’s a good reason being cheap is often listed among the top habits that are turn offs for women for women. Now being thrifty is one thing. No fair-thinking person will judge you for trying to make your dollars go further. Being miserly and refusing to spend money on the necessities in life is not the same.

You don’t need to flash the cash to impress women. On the contrary, a lot of women are put off by men who flaunt their wealth.

But equally as unattractive are cheap men. This means going to a restaurant and not tipping the waiter to save $4. Or, heaven forbid, asking your date to pay for her own meal. (It’s polite for her to offer, but that’s a whole different topic…)

If money is tight, visit a moderately priced restaurant. You will still enjoy your date’s company and you’ll have enough money left over to tip the waiter – as any gentleman should.

Bad Habit #12 Prioritizing Your Phone Over Her

Repeatedly checking your phone or taking calls shows someone in your company that Facebook and Fortnite take priority over them.

Here’s the easy solution: Put your phone away when you’ve got company.

If you have your phone in your hand or out on the table, it can be easy to hold it, touch it and generally be distracted by it.

These actions all serve to create distance between you and whoever you are with. Holding your phone up can even feel like you are putting a physical barrier between the two of you.

Women aren’t mind-readers. Make it clear you value their company and they have 100% of your attention.

Bad Habit #13 You Don’t Listen To Her

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Men are logical creatures. We like to provide solutions to problems. Often, if we have a problem with someone or something, we’ll address it as quickly as possible and move on.

The problem is that men are bad listeners. We have become experts in looking like we’re listening – offering a courtesy nod at 3-minute intervals – when we are thinking about planes, cars, diesel generators, shiny things, and how submarines stay submerged when they’re full of air (it’s to do with ballast tanks by the way).

Our male brains allow us to listen briefly before offering (or even forcing) a solution.

And that’s where we get it wrong. Women don’t necessarily want a solution. They want to discuss their day or talk out their problem and to have someone to talk to.

It’s easier if you think about it – you don’t need to provide a solution. All you need to do is listen.

Bad Habit #14 You Don’t Keep Your Promises

Talk is cheap. As far as a woman should be concerned, your word is your bond. If you say you’re going to do something, then make sure you do it. This shows you are truthful, trustworthy and reliable.

Repeatedly failing to deliver on your promises makes you Homer Simpson. D’oh!

Bad Habit #15 You Forget Her Birthday

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Forgetting a birthday happens when you allow yourself to be distracted. You are either focusing too much on the here-and-now or you’re forgetting to learn more about the girl you are spending time with.

It happens a lot more than it should. Judging by how often this happens in sitcoms, you might think it is a funny story but it’s very disrespectful. In fact, it’s downright rude.

If you are unsure about a woman’s birthday, there are little tricks you can use to get this essential information. Check her Facebook, politely ask her friends (there’s nothing wrong with this) or use the tried-and-tested method of asking her early on in a relationship.

Whatever you do, don’t wait and hope she drops you a clue. It will become more and more uncomfortable as time goes on. You will be caught out when her girlfriends come over one day ‘out of nowhere’ with armfuls of gifts and you have nothing.

BONUS Habits That Are Turn Offs For Women: Bad Hygiene

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It’s a common stereotype that men don’t keep themselves as clean as women. Defy a woman’s expectations by keeping a tight ship and you will instantly separate yourself from her ex’s. Here are the bad hygiene habits you need to kick to the curb right now:

Not Brushing Your Teeth

It’s science: Women have an average of 43% more olfactory cells in their brains than we do.

What does this mean? Simple – women have a better sense of smell than we do. It also means that they can detect whether or not you brushed your teeth in the morning.

EVEN if you can’t smell it yourself.

Think you know how to brush your teeth? Thing again. Discover how to do it like a pro!

Gents, take no chances. Brush your teeth in the morning and at night. Make a routine for it.

It may even be prudent to take some mint gum or some mint strips to work with you. If you know you have a tendency to eat smelly foods, then take your toothbrush with you! Preparation is key!

Not Using The Toilet Seat

Most guys believe the toilet was designed with the toilet seat in the vertical position.

The simple act of lowering the toilet seat after you’ve been to the bathroom can work wonders for any budding relationship but this is something that many men just do not do.

On a spiritual level, this small act shows you are caring and considerate (and house trained). On a practical level, it prevents your eardrums from rupturing when your other half falls into the toilet bowl during a half-asleep nighttime visit to the bathroom.

Toilet technique extends past the lowering of the lid. Survey the area around the toilet and you’ll notice a long, stick-shaped object made from plastic or metal. At one end (hopefully the end pointing towards you), you’ll find a handle. At the other end – a brush made with stiff bristles.

Use it regularly. We shouldn’t need to explain why…

And my final point on toilets is a simple one. Clean your hands after going. Just do it. The sink is a maximum of 2 meters away from the toilet. Oftentimes, you pass it on your way out of the bathroom.

Bad Nails

Ask almost any woman what her major turns offs are and dirty nails will be somewhere around the top of the list, possibly just behind the novelty Christmas tie.

There’s no excuse for this; keep your nails trim and clean them regularly. Make this routine a good habit and learn how a man should cut his fingernails.

Dirty Bedsheets

It is said that cleanliness is next to godliness. It is also said that dirty bedsheets are absolutely disgusting. The prospect of clambering into a dirty, smelly, pizza-stained bed is not one that women with a sense of smell look forward to.

No man enjoys changing their bedding. I’d say that along with watching paint dry, changing a duvet cover is one of the most mundane experiences life has to offer. Everyone enjoys the feeling of clean, crisp, fresh bedsheets though. The ends justify the means.

Change your sheets once every two weeks (not once every blue moon, year or month). Also, make sure your bedding looks and feels nice. That means out with the rough Transformers bedcovers and in with crisp, classy high-thread-count cotton.

Make it look like you’ve made an effort.

It shouldn’t be a mystery anymore – if you repel the ladies like there’s no tomorrow, you may have just found the cause. Remember, gentlemen, it’s mostly about being straightforward and true with her about yourself and your goals.

Don’t leave her hanging.

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4 Steps To PURGE Your Wardrobe – How To Get Rid Of Clothing Clutter In Your Closet

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It’s Purge Night in your closet.

All bets are off.

All laws are suspended.

For twelve hours, only powerful clothes are safe.

Which outfits will you spare?

Which deserve to die?

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A quick look at Rotten Tomatoes will tell you that the jury’s out on whether the premise of the movie The Purge – a society kept under control by a yearly 12-hour period with no laws or emergency services – holds up to scrutiny.

But when it comes to your wardrobe, maintaining order via an annual period of merciless settling up actually makes a lot of sense.

Today, I’m going to show you how to lay your internalized “laws” and emotional hang-ups aside and embrace the purge.

Rule 1: The Purge Lasts a Scheduled, Set Length of Time

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Know when you need to purge. Sometimes it’s because a lot of your wardrobe has become worn out and you’ve been making do with it for too long. For many men, a transition to a new phase of life prompts the need for a clean-out.

If your clothes don’t reflect your age or where you are in your career, or you have a lot of things you never wear, it’s probably time.

Once you know it’s needed, mark it on your calendar. Block off a Saturday afternoon and resolve to only do that.

Set a strict time limit. That way, you’ll be less tempted to procrastinate AND less likely to dither unnecessarily about your decisions. The more time you allow yourself, the more you’ll overthink things.

Like the film’s, your purge should be annual. Marking aside time to check out your wardrobe in a deliberate way will save you time in the future – time shopping, time getting dressed, time panicking because you forgot that the shirt still hanging in your closet has a hole in it.

Subsequent purges won’t be as drastic as your first one. That’s okay. The point is, you’re keeping your wardrobe up to date, in good shape, and pared down to the essentials.

Rule 2: Authorized Weapons Only

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For your closet purge, your “weapons” are the questions and concepts you use to aid your decision-making. And heads up: the methods you might be thinking of – making three piles, looking only for what you literally never wear – are weak.

You want to separate the best of your wardrobe from what just doesn’t make the cut. You want a highly selective process. In your new, stylish wardrobe, every single piece should be a winner.

In his book Essentialism, Greg Mckeown presents a series of questions you might ask while cleaning out a closet, and better questions you could ask instead. He uses the analogy of de-cluttering our closet in the same way we de-clutter our lives.

But let’s focus on his closet strategy.

Don’t ask, “do I like this?” More than likely you do at least a little bit, or you wouldn’t have bought it in the first place.

Instead, ask: do I wear this often? Do I look GREAT in it? If I saw this on a store shelf today, would I buy it again at full price?

These are much more powerful questions. They’re derived from one of my men’s style equations: the style equation of value.

If it’s not a ‘hell yeah,’ then it’s a ‘no.’

Rule 3: All (Mental) Emergency Services Are Suspended

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That anxiety you feel when you think about getting rid of stuff is a mostly sunk-cost fallacy – the irrational belief that something you’re not using is worth holding onto because you’ve already spent money on it.

It may pay off elsewhere, but thrifty self-control won’t serve you here. Turn the “but I spent money on this!” sirens OFF for the duration of the purge.

Move fast and be brutal. Don’t let “someday” or “maybe” stop you from paring down your wardrobe. Maybe someday you’ll get back in shape, but in the meantime, it’s just taking up space (or worse, getting worn and making you look like a walking midlife crisis).

Besides, would you really want to celebrated a body transformation by wearing out-f-date clothes?

Clothes that are even slightly dated make you look cheap, and not in a cool thrift-shop hipster kind of way. Chances are, you can get along without them.

The last major category of items you’re going to get rid of are clothes fit only for the trash. Stained, worn out, and torn clothes, no matter how nice they used to be, aren’t fit to sell or donate. Toss them. They should not stay in your closet.

For more on this, check out my handy guide on when to throw away clothes.

Rule 4: No Killing of Outfits Level 10 Or Higher

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In The Purge, you’re not allowed to kill a high-ranking government official. In the Closet Purge, you’re not allowed to kill an outfit you could wear in public if you were one.

When your whole wardrobe’s potentially on the chopping block, what you really need to save are the high-quality, timeless pieces that you’ve invested in because they will never go out of style. If they fit really well (or could with a trip to the tailor) and they’re in great shape, e.g. no holes or stains, these pieces are keepers.

Also in your ‘keep’ pile should be clothes that are highly versatile and could become a component of several go-to looks. You know what you wear often and what goes with what, so if, for example, you need to turn twenty shirts into ten shirts, build your all-star team from the most frequent picks.

If you need some guidelines, check out my posts on creating an interchangeable wardrobe. The mindset of incorporating maximum versatility will help you build a minimalist wardrobe that works.

After Closet Clean Out

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Once you’ve completed your purge and you’re looking at what remains – vast, empty spaces between each item; gaping holes where the clothes that didn’t make the cut once hung – you’re going to want to buy tons of new clothes right away.

Unless you literally just trashed all your pants, don’t do that.

Instead, live with the clothes you have for a little while and work out what you still need to complete your wardrobe. Make a list of what you need or want so you can shop strategically. Don’t waste time and money just because the hoarding impulse kicks in.

Create a system for getting rid of unwanted clothes in the future. Keep a bag or laundry basket for unwanted clothes near your closet or chest of drawers.

When you buy a new item to replace something, discard the old one.

When something wears out, make sure you toss it out of sight so you’re not tempted to venture out in it.

You can donate or toss your no-longer-needed basket at your next annual purge.

If your closet hasn’t been cleaned out in ages, this probably sounds daunting, but it will be well worth it for the way it streamlines your mornings – and your laundry days.

Take it one step at a time, and you’ll be left with a wardrobe that contains only great options. Why settle for less?

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Professional TV Dancer Neil Jones announced as the face of Shakeup Cosmetics 

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TV star Neil Jones has joined male beauty brand Shakeup as their first ambassador and launches new Age Def-Eye Instant Lifting Eye Cream.

Shakeup co-founder Jake Xu says “We are delighted to welcome Neil as our very first face of the brand. He aligns perfectly with our style, vision, and brand values and of course our fans and we are thrilled to announce this new partnership”.

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In his role as ambassador, Neil will be motivating men to look and feel their best as well as working closely with Shakeup on new product development and upcoming campaigns.

Neil adds “I’m really excited to be teaming up with Shakeup. Daily demands and hectic schedules can take its toll on my skin but looking after it properly is crucial, especially in my line of work. I love the Shakeup products – they give great results with minimal effort and they’re great value. A winning combination!”

Neil’s favourite product is the NEW Age Def-Eye Instant Lifting Eye Cream, £28. Combining caffeine, squalane, shea butter, and two revolutionary trademarked ingredients – Inst’Tight and Ipeptide, it instantly tightens, refreshes, and revives tired looking eyes and minimises puffy eye bags and dark circles, fine lines, wrinkles, and crow’s feet.

Neil says, “With a new baby and busy rehearsals, it’s brilliant for helping me look like I’ve had a great night’s sleep!”

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Products are made in Britain, cruelty free, vegan friendly and PETA approved and available from shakeupcosmetics.com and Amazon.

About Shakeup:

Shakeup was founded in 2020 by twin brothers Jake Xu and Jake Carnell-Xu. As Chinese British (born in Beijing and grew up in Bath, UK) they have been inspired by the massive rise in men’s beauty in Asia and the K-pop market. With more men than ever branching out with their beauty routines, they created Shakeup to provide affordable, innovative, and solution-driven, skin care and cosmetic products and are

on a mission to normalise men wearing make-up.

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13 Public Speaking Mistakes To Avoid In Your Presentation

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Imagine…

The sea of faces.

The expectant hush.

Butterflies in your stomach.

Sweaty palms.

This is the presentation of your life.

It’s going to make or break your career.

Your heart pounds as you listen to yourself drone on… watch their eyes glaze over…

And feel your career going down the drain.

Death by PowerPoint.

Today, we are going to throw you a lifeline. I have 13 public speaking mistakes for you to avoid to make sure you never fail another presentation in your life!

#1 Public Speaking Mistake: Not Knowing Your Audience

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You need to know who you’re speaking to–in general and as individuals–to avoid losing them to confusion or giving them irrelevant information.

Ask yourself two questions: why are they here, and what do they already know?

By understanding how much your audience knows about the topic, you can avoid filler words in presentations or examples they don’t understand, but also avoid talking down to them.

Knowing what they want to find out helps you stay relevant and hold their interest.

Stand on their side of the podium for a moment. What motivates them to be there? What could you tell them that would make them glad they came?

Research who you’ll be speaking to. Knowing the age group, professions, and other demographics of your audience will help you decide what points are most likely to click.

If your audience is from a different generation, company, or background, try to get a feel for their culture so you don’t say anything that will come off as rude.

You can also use this to tailor references and humor to their taste, but understand that that’s not a substitute for genuine respect. Trendy internet slang isn’t the key to reaching an audience of high school students–showing you respect their intelligence even as you speak from an older perspective is.

#2 Not Emotionally Connecting

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There’s a reason your audience didn’t just google the info you’re telling them: they want to hear it from a person. They came to hear your human perspective and to experience the connection you can offer them

The best presentations are ones that create a deep personal connection, and one thing we all share as human beings are feelings of fear or vulnerability. If you’re willing to open up about yours, it can help people feel a stronger connection with you.

My personal example: I will, in the course of talks, sometimes talk about suicide, which is an issue that’s touched me closely in my family and in my military service. Getting people the help they need to try and prevent suicide is something I’m involved with and something that means a lot to me.

I don’t bring it up to impress people or to try and make them feel like they need to get involved, but I will mention it to show people that hey — I am a guy who does care and think about serious stuff, beyond whatever the topic of the moment is.

“The best presentations are ones that create a deep personal connection, and one thing we all share as human beings are feelings of fear or vulnerability.”

And most people are like that! They have some things they care very deeply about, or have strong feelings about, or are committed to or involved with in a serious way. Hearing about mine reminds them of theirs, and then we have a connection as real human beings.

Let them know how you feel about what you’re telling them – they’ll internalize it. Feel free to mention relevant things that you care about as examples. It helps your audience feel like they know you.

#3 Winging It

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Under-preparing is a common mistake that can ruin a presentation with tons of potential. If you’re not prepared, you can’t relax. And if you don’t relax, you’re unlikely to engage at the level that the best public speakers do.

Have a plan B in case of technical difficulties, come up with alternate examples in case your original ones don’t seem to be landing and arrive early.

Check your equipment and everything you’ll need well before it’s time to start the speech. If you can, do a run-through on-venue–a full dress rehearsal, if you will.

If you’re prepared well in advance, you can use any extra time at the beginning to talk with individuals. It’ll help your audience feel more comfortable with you.

#4 Death By Powerpoint

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Visual aids can make your speech clearer and easier to follow, but not if they’re text-heavy, hard to read, or distracting.

Most people know you shouldn’t read text straight from your PowerPoint slides, but you should be keeping text basic overall. You want it to be easy for your audience to note down or remember. Set a target of no more than 10-15 words per slide.

To use PowerPoint effectively, make sure it looks polished and be careful of busy themes and long transitions. You want to keep people’s interest on what you’re saying, not distract from it.

#5 Not Practicing Enough

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The keys to a good presentation are confidence, flexibility, engaging your audience, and knowing your stuff.

How do you get there? Practice.

The better you know your material, the more relaxed you’ll be and the more confident you’ll come across.

Start practicing at least several days in advance.

You want everything committed to long-term memory. Until you can give your speech while driving, doing the dishes, or walking through an unfamiliar conference center, you shouldn’t tell yourself you’ve “practiced enough.”

On your later run-throughs, hone the details. Test out how you want the presentation to feel–what the arc of it will be, where it’s most high-energy.

Don’t just memorize the bullet points. Match them to your tone and gestures.

#6 Not Knowing What You’re Talking About

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Obviously, you want to give your audience accurate information. They’re there to learn. But doing your homework before a presentation is important for another reason: credibility.

The audience doesn’t have to know everything about the topic to catch an outdated fact or a statistical mix-up. And if they do, they’ll wonder about the accuracy of every single thing you’re saying.

Building credibility keeps people paying attention because they know what you’re saying is useful. They feel like they can trust you to answer their questions and give them the straight talk about the topic. It goes without saying, but you want to avoid being embarrassed during the Q & A too.

If you’re tripped up by a question or need to double check a fact, it’s worse to say something wrong than it is to excuse yourself and quickly check your notes. At the end of the day, honesty is more valuable than smoothly rattling off incorrect info.

#7 No Excitement

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Especially if you’re at a conference or in an office setting where people are going to meetings regularly, they’ve probably already seen a lot of people just standing there talking.

If you can give them a fresh experience, they’ll listen more closely to your points and you’ll make an impression.

When you practice, get comfortable moving around. Don’t hide behind the podium.

Choose your anecdotes carefully, and tell them like you’d tell a story to your friends. If they’re interesting in their own right, they’ll do a way better job of illustrating your points because your audience will remember them.

Make sure the relevancy is spot-on though, or they’ll remember the story and not the point.

#8 Going On Too Long

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People naturally pay attention in bursts of 15-20 minutes. Ask yourself if you really need to talk for longer. If you do, try to divide your speech into segments with a brief pause between each one.

Almost all presentations go on for longer in front of an audience. Practice until you can do it comfortably in less than the allotted time.

If you can save someone time then you instantly become a high value man in their eyes. Worst case scenario, you keep it brief and have more time for questions afterward.

Timing your statements keeps your message interesting longer. This is as true for public speaking as it is for stand-up comedy. Figure out how to make basic points as briefly as possible, then fill in the details where you have time.

#9 Not Engaging Your Audience

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Talk about things you know your audience is going to be interested in. If you can, talk about your topic in terms of their lives specifically.

As you speak, try to stick with mostly “you” statements. You should be constantly feeding the audience’s perception that this is directly relevant to them. A close second option is using “we” statements, creating the feeling that you and the audience are a team.

If you’re presenting to a small group, like a gathering around a conference table, you can alternate meeting each person’s eyes directly. For larger groups, move your gaze around the room.

Interact with your audience as much as you can. Ask them questions. Open the floor up to brainstorming. If they’re participating, they’ll be paying attention.

#10 Not Observing Other Speakers

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Never miss an opportunity to watch other public speakers in action.

Go to talks when you’re at conferences. Watch videos like mine online. Check the bulletin boards at your local college or library for public lectures (you can learn some really weird and cool stuff from those, too).

Exposing yourself to a wide range of speakers shows you both the good and the bad of public speaking.

I got to watch Ian Cleary of Razor Social speak recently, who’s an absolute master of the craft, and I was thinking to myself “man, I’ll never be as good as this guy.”

But at the same conference I saw enough presentations that made me think “okay, I’m at least this good” that I could feel positive about my skills, and aspire to get them closer to Ian’s level by learning from him!

#11 Not Moving Around

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Whatever room you’re in, own it!

Don’t hide behind the podium.

Move around and gesture when you talk. It’s much better to look too energetic than not energetic enough.

In a lot of public speaking settings (like business meetings and conferences), people have been doing the same sit-and-listen routine for a long time. You want to offer them something that looks and feels different to get them out of their mental rut.

In one presentation that I did with John Dumas of Entrepreneur on Fire, we only had 20 people or so and a fairly small space. When we got there, we moved the chairs into a big circle and had one “hot-seat” at the center that different people took at different points in the presentation.

The change in structure really helped break up the feeling of sitting and staring at screens while someone talks from up on stage. It gave people a sense that they were there getting one-on-one advice from some guys with big successes under their belt, which made the whole experience feel very valuable to them. We got great feedback on that one.

#12 Not Utilizing the Correct Body Language

Your body language adds credibility to your speech. Avoid crossing your arms (this is a defensive gesture which puts up a barrier between you and the audience) and try to avoid fiddling with your cuffs, wallet or buttons because this makes you look nervous.

Take time to watch how the professionals do it and remember to work the room.

That means not standing in one place like a statue – you should be animated to keep your audience’s attention.

Want to learn more about body language moves that can help you gain trust? Click here to check out the 3 Secret Body Language Moves That Help You Gain Instant Trust.

#13 Not Realizing Unconscious Bad Habits

You’ll spot some bad habits as you work on your body language – things like putting your hands in your pockets or touching your face while speaking.

But I’m willing to bet you also have some bad verbal habits. Watch out for ‘filler words’. Words like:

  • Uh
  • So
  • Well
  • You know
  • Like
  • I mean
  • Anyway
  • As I was saying

These weaken the impact of what you’re saying and make you come off as unsure, unprepared, and nervous.

How to break yourself of the habit? Try making a game of it. Create a ‘filler word jar’ and drop a quarter in there every time you use a filler word. Speaking without filler words will feel odd, but you can go a long way towards breaking this habit in just one day.

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By: Antonio Centeno
Title: 13 Public Speaking Mistakes To Avoid In Your Presentation
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Published Date: Fri, 16 Feb 2024 17:58:33 +0000

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